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Totally agree with Kelsey’s comment above! What worked for me saying how I feel and how I need to be supported ..also if you all are able to spend some time just the two of you like a date day/ night just a few hours you two, without little babe that might be good!
I find that sometimes I need to just schedule time out of town or schedule time for myself to remind my partner how hard solo parenting is. That generally leads to more support after and fills my cup when I’m out of steam.
You have already been vocal about it. I think at this point you should have one final conversation with her and have her understand the seriousness of the conversation. If she is not getting it, she is never going to get it or she gets it but doesn’t care to change. You need to put your foot down and tell her that she needs to do her part if not, you may want to part ways. No one should waste their time on someone who doesn’t want to be in the relationship. She doesn’t show affection anymore and there shouldn’t be a reason why she wouldn’t unless she no longer cares to continue the relationship. My husband and I are always tired but we always make time for each other. I don’t have to tell him or remind him to do his fatherly or husbandly duties, he does them because we both understand that this is teamwork. The fact that you need to tell your partner that she’s making you feel lonely is not a good sign.
I think there is a fine line when you’re being vocal and how often you’re being vocal because then they don’t listen to what you’re actually telling them, but see it as nagging. And nagging gets tuned out. I think in this situation counseling might be What’s a try if you want to be really heard. Have you tried maybe say I need to go run some errands stay with the baby and just have some time to yourself? That way she can spend some time with the child and see the work that needs to be put in and you can have a little break?
This is what i’m going through i’m always alone my husband is always the games he can come to bed at2,i fill like i should give up on this marriage coz i’m tired just month after marriage
That sounds really tough. Maybe say things like, “I’m feeling lonely/sad, I’d love some *insert affection here*” and avoid “you do/don’t do this” statements. Also, not sure if you’re initiating affection, but if not, maybe that could help.