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My daughter is almost 2 and my MIL now wants to start picking her up but the thing is she did something in the past that made me not trust her plus she hasn’t been around my daughter enough for my child to bond to her. Is it bad that I want to wait til I’m comfortable? I feel like I have to trust you no matter if you’re family in order for me to be okay with you taking my daughter while I’m not there. Obviously I’m not against her bonding with her but to have her while I’m not there I don’t think I’m comfortable with that rn.

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And that’s fine.. you and your daughter have to be comfortable with her. Build your trust with her first. Some MIL believe their tittle and position is more than what it is.

I'm 100% with you. My mil is good with kids but she had said some things to me in the past. Plus I've heard her say things to my daughter like if you want to sit with Grandma you have to be a good girl only good girls sit with me. Crying one has to go to mommy and daddy. She was like 7mth old . When I told her she was at 2oz ever two hrs found out she was thinking she needs more and was trying to feed her 4oz which she would spit up a lot. She would keep trying to do it. So I'm not comfortable she doesn't respect my instructions. When your not comfortable your not going to be at ease when she has your baby.

Totally feel the same! If she’s not following instructions how can you trust! Mine is super cheap & counting or wanting to know if we’re having another & if we can afford it.. is that a common thing to ask? She seems to be counting what we spend on 5 month old & all we have is 1 !! It’s so sad to me how all three of her off spring one, my husband is married very recently to me & finally blessed w/ a baby - her commentary of how babies / children are expensive is off putting!