Girls how are you all doing? I need advice
Moms how are you doing? How are you going about life? As a single mom of two, i feel really depressed. Helpless honestly. Mentally and emotionally I’ve become strong but i still feel really discouraged with the way my life has gone. I still suffer with regrets and wishes that i shouldn’t have allowed myself to become single mom, i could have been bolder and learned to say NO better. I could have said NO (im autistic). I could have chosen to give up for adoption instead before i became emotionally attached to my first kid. I was in my early 20s when i first got pregnant with my first child( Im 27 now) The second child was planned because i didn’t want my son to not have a sibling. It was a personal decision and the right one. But the issue is i feel shamefully regretful for not sticking up for myself. Had i been stronger enough i could have avoided this whole thing. I don’t want to think this way, I love my kids, they’re 4 & 5 now but part of me feels really damn depressed that this is my life now and im just really dreading even trying to date because i feel like nobody wants to date and commit to a mother with kids😖 And my son is also autistic which doesn’t make it any easier.
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As a single mom who is autistic (audhd) with two kids cuz I didn’t want my son to be an only child… and both my kids are audhd like with pda… it’s definitely a challenge! If I knew what I knew now I probably wouldn’t have had them but I was unhealed when i decided to have them. Now I love them and will be here for them always… but it is a struggle with everything… and I haven’t had a serious relationship since their dad… 7 years ago… so it’s been lonely but also necessary cuz I will never go back to him for several reasons… all this just to say… you ain’t alone 🫶🏻
I feel your pain and sympathize with you. I’m a 28 and a first time, mother, but also a single mother to a 10 month old boy. I know the struggle there are days I don’t want get out of bed, days I don’t properly, take care of myself and just do the bare minimum and take care of the baby. So I’m completely understand where you’re coming from. I would say for right now not to think about relationship. It will come natural but for right now I think you need to focus on yourself, your mental health and your children. If you’re able I would seek therapy. I’m currently in it myself. It might actually help. I’m a part of a postpartum group therapy and Im also doing individual therapy it’s a lot but it’s been helping so far. I would look into that. Also, wherever you live, I will look into resources for assistance, not just financially, but just support in general. Any help is better than nothing. You got this love and U will continue to make it through!!! Stay strong 💜