MIL & baby’s middle name 🙄

We was out for my MIL’s birthday yesterday evening, her friend asked me if we had baby boy’s full name decided yet (my boyfriend quickly said no so I just agreed, but we do🤣). My MIL jumped in and started making comments about how it will HAVE to be 2 middle names because of my Dad’s name & his Dad’s name (bearing in mind we’ve never actually said it would be one of them?!). It just rubbed me up the wrong way because she was pretty much indirectly saying “you better not use one without the other”… We’re already planning on using just my Dad’s, I personally just like the look of one middle name, we’re not doing two just for the sake of it, my Dad doesn’t have anyone named after him & quite frankly he’s been there for us as a couple A LOT more than my boyfriend’s Dad. Also, overheard her moan that we didn’t get her a Nanny birthday card from the baby 🙂
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If my MIL said this I’d use my Dad’s name twice 🤣

It's nothing to do with your MIL how many middle names your little boy has! I'd tell her to butt out and mind her own business!

Urgh I hate this when they think they have a say in what you name your child. They’ve had their chance! My MIL is the same, first girl in 5 grandsons and she was straight in there with the name. Your baby, your choice completely! X

She’s upset that she didn’t get a birthday card on behalf of the unborn baby? I know people say narcissist is overused, but she’s displaying narcissistic behavior. You & your boyfriend need to be honest with his parents & tell them you already have a name picked out & that they have no say in the matter.

I can’t believe what I’m reading sometimes. My mother in law has always treated me horribly, I’ve tried and tried over the years and am in no position to advise but please don’t let her manipulate. To expect a card from an unborn child is beyond ridiculous (I would say this is only a thing for you as the parents). I definitely wouldn’t bend on the name, you have chosen it, it doesn’t matter what anyone else but you as the baby’s parents think xx

What does your partner think? Is he completely onboard with just using your Dad's name? Did you ask why he said you hadn't when you have? Is there a possibility he would like to use his Dad's name? I honestly don't see anything wrong with her thinking the baby should have 2 middle names if her husband is a great man and a great father. If you had said you have picked a name, then she'd be put of line, if either of you told her to stop and she didn't, then she'd be out of line. The card thing is odd, but she is excited to be a Grandma to this baby. If you are BOTH adamant that you have already named your baby, then tell your MIL that. There is no need to tell her the name, just ell her you won't be announcing or discussing it until baby is born but that he has a full name.

Also I assume (maybe wrong) that baby will have his dad’s (your other halves) surname? So fuck giving him two names in there. That’s just stupid. Bloody oldies always have an opinion!!

Me and my partner arent married so I wanted my baby to have my surname aswell .. which agreed . However my MIL then did a horoscope for him🙄 without asking me ( they believe in it ) but on the bit is only my partner surname ..i will make sure i will tell her , my baby have 2 surnames just in case she forgot ..

She doesn’t get a say so she just gunna have to suck it up!

My stepmom assumed I would use HER fathers name (a man whom I’ve never met) and when we told her the name we picked she was shocked as if we’d already agreed on using her suggestion which was her dads name as the first and the baby’s father’s name as the middle. What.

Your baby, you choose the name, end of!

One of my sons has my dads name and husbands dads. I wish I only used my dad, we had another boy a year and a half later and could have used his dads with our next instead. My dad died so it meant a lot more to me but at the time it was all about fairness 😬 now our youngest son has a male version of his mums name for a middle name 🫠

2 middle names is doing the most, idk why grandparents act like they didn’t already raise THEIR kids. It’s your baby just ignore her lol or shut it down so she stops mentioning it

@Penny hilarious 😂😂

@Tinashe “Alexander Alex” 😂

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