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Child meeting dads new partner

My little girl will be meeting her dads new partner & it’s making me sad. Not sad because I have feelings for him, sad because what if she really likes her and prefers to spend more time at dads because she’s got a ‘family’ unit there. I’m sure I’m just being silly but did anyone else have these thoughts. I keep worrying she will like her more than me, which is daft because I’m her mum. Anyone else or just me 😂

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I am soon to be in the same boat! No one is meeting anyone yet but I know it's going to happen soon and I don't know how i feel about it but I am concerned. Sorry I don't really have advice but wanted to let you know that you are certainly not the only person having these thoughts and feelings

Your feelings are so valid! Currently not in the situation but thought of it before and have the same worry. I don't think I'm doing a good job in mothering or anything really so I think she would prefer someone else. But in your case it's possible she won't even like her or just another person to love her but you can't replace mom

I know this feeling I’m going through the same and honestly it’s been awful. I worry my daughter will enjoy that family unit more especially as the new partner has a child and dog so it’s literally a ready made family. I don’t have any words of advice more just solidarity! I have found that I need to keep really busy on my weekends without my daughter and have confidence in the bond that I have with her and keep telling myself that no one can replace that. X