in July 2023 Babies 🇬🇧

Managing pregnancy and a toddler

I massively under estimated how hard it would be to manage a toddler while pregnant. I am 7 weeks pregnant, feeling nauseous and have littler energy. My LO os still breastfed and recently started breastfeeding a lot again at night. It is too tiring so basically sleep every morning and as soon as she is asleep at night. Plus I work full time. But I feel so guilty for spending less time with ny LO :( Any tips or advice? I am planning to redo a gentle sleep training and hoping at the end of it to stop breastfeeding, but I am terrified to start as I feel so tired. I can hear advice to let the dad more involved, but she yells so much with him at night and constantly asks for her mum (and no one ends up sleeping!)

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I know it is tough when baby wants you but when I found out I was pregnant I was also still breastfeeding to sleep. We did some sleep training and dad took all responsibility as we knew it would help a pregnant me. Then I only breastfed once he woke up from naps rather than associating it with going to sleep and slowly stopped that way. He was always reliant on me and not his dad so there were obviously lots of tears to start with which killed me but it honestly didn't last long and now we get full 12 hour nights and anyone can put him to bed. It's life changing and definitely worth it especially when pregnant! ❤️

Hiya just wanted to let you know your not alone, I have a 21 month old too and I’m 30 weeks pregnant, the first trimester was hell with feeling sick etc then it got a lot better, now I’m starting to struggle again ad I’m a lot bigger and my toddler is really hard work at the moment! I’m also finding it difficult as he’s really big and heavy and when having a tantrum I find it hard to control him, I also have the same concerns about bed time, he does sleep through the night but sleeps in with us which I’m trying to get him out of the habit within the next 10 weeks, I’ve also had felt overwhelmed a lot this pregnancy as I can’t help but feel guilty about having another and sharing my attention, I’m not much help but now I’m actually looking forward to baby being here and it being pregnant anymore, the only thing I can advice is to start trying to change habits as soon as possible as I’ve put them off for so long and this pregnancy has literally flown by and I’m now starting to panic

That I’ve only got 10 weeks left, it’s really hard but I keep reminding myself how lovely it will be to have my babies close in age, feel free to message me xx