Partner is more of a dad to his nephew & niece than actual baby otw!

I would be upset if I were you too. I think you need to sit down with him and have a serious chat, and remind him where his priorities lie. You’ll have a baby of your own any day now, and you need him at home with you, present as a father, not running around with his nieces and nephews. They’re old enough that she shouldn’t need help looking after them at that age! If they were 1+2 maybe but one of them is a teenager! I think you need to remind him to be at home with you, and if he can’t provide that for you then it would be best if you went your separate ways, because if he can’t prioritise you and your own baby together, then you’re basically a single parent anyway! So sorry you’re going through this hun 💕

Just read the first few lines… wtf 😳 they’re grown ass kids that don’t need looking after. And whattt he moved in with them 😳😳 you’re literally due anytime now!! I don’t have any advice but just shocked. Sending you love and hope it gets easier xXx

@S X I agree it's irritating since they're not actually his kids, but of a mother of 4 ages 3-12, 10 and 14 are not grown ass kids, the older ones almost require more of your time. Sure they can do more for themselves than a baby but they also require a lot of work if you want to keep them growing into responsible humans. Now that my eldest is 12 I can honestly say baby/toddler stage is the easy part and that is saying alot as I also had NICU babies twice. That being said I applaud his support of his sister but he should be prioritizing his child on the way first.

I don't think you and your son are irrelevant, maybe he is trying to spend time with them more now because he knows when your son is born he will be able to help less? Your partner is not their dad and cannot replace their dad, it sounds like he is just trying to help his sister, would you feel differently if it was his brother or if you had a better relationship with his sister? Either way I think you should speak to him and say you feel like you need more quality time with him

@Jamie with all due respect, I think that is something she should take up with their dad, and not him. He is literally living with them whilst she is able to travel and party as she pleases. She would previously travel for days/ weeks on end and leave them unattended because she can’t cope as a single mother she says. Well she’s now making me a single mother. I find it hard to applaud the support. I see it as encouraging bad behaviour

@Claudia I don’t think I would feel differently because he literally barely checks on me or sees me but runs at their beck and call. The reality is, I’m alone and relying on my family’s support. I have spoken to him and he defends his family or vows to change and gets worse. Lose lose situation. I tried to arrange quality time and he brought his niece along 🫠 literally not had one on one time in months

@Jessica which I understand but this is so bad. My midwife even noticed the lack of support and suggested another birth partner as he isn’t. Seems the only people he is interested in keeping happy is his family, as he once slipped up and said myself and my son were not his family. Don’t think he realises we’re creating a family. By the time he does, I’ll probably be out the door

@Georgia @S X thanks you both so much ❤️

I can relate. I hate when people be more of a dad to other people kids more than their own. They don’t realize what kind of jealous that cause their to act out. Now don’t get me wrong it’s nice that they can have a healthy relationship but thats also something those father should be apart of.