Boyfriend thinks I’m disgusting

Is sh = self harm?

If that’s the case, I’m really sorry to hear that. You deserve a better situation.

@Lauren yes

Fuck himmmmmm! If he wants to go, then let him. You deserve better. & There's someone out there that will love you properly & your babies. He's a little bitch for talking like that. I would've strangled my bf already. Praying for you! 🙏🏼🤎

He’s playing head games with you. It’s super unhealthy and I advice he needs some serious help or you need to get out. That’s some mental abuse to the max!

LEAVE HIM

I’m so sorry momma, you don’t deserve this treatment at all. Especially from your significant other. 🥺

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this... he is wrong. You just gave a baby life!! your body is BEAUTIFUL!! He is blind, and undeserving of you. He sounds Toxic, your body went through alot mentally and physically and if he can't appreciate you, then he shouldn't be with you!

I just keep thinking if it isn’t true and he doesn’t mean it how can he keep saying things at random?? I can’t turn around to him and say this kinda stuff cause I genuinely don’t believe it I just feel so low 💔

What hurts the most is since having baby 2 weeks ago I’ve felt the best I’ve felt in a while, and these comments are really tearing me down it’s messing with my head saying he doesn’t mean it yet saying ‘some men like big girls’ ‘if you’re that bothered just lose weight’ I don’t know if I could even be intimate with him after this I feel insecure and exposed anyway😢I just want to be good enough for him he is so perfect in my eyes I just hate this 5 years of relationship I feel like the fat girlfriend he doesn’t feel proud to be with

1st of all you just had a baby 2 weeks ago! Give yourself time to heal. 2nd let HIM believe what he is telling you, and you try taking it with a grain a salt. My ex used to tell me the same thing all the time. I'm now married for over 5 years and have 3 beautiful little girls. So there is definitely better out there if you decide to take that step.

Whether he means it or not I feel like is the least of his issues. He sounds like a real big piece of shit that doesn’t deserve you.

He does mean it what he says, but that doesn't mean it's true. He obviously has an issue with how you look now, which is *his* problem - you've given birth twice! That's an accomplishment! If he can't appreciate everything you've done, how can you say he's perfect? He obviously isn't - he's cruel and he's laughing while insulting you when he knows you're vulnerable. And yes, he absolutely does know if he's commenting on you crying and calling you a baby - he knows exactly what he's doing. He thinks bullying you is going to magically make you look a certain way. You cannot keep thinking he's so great if he's so immature and loveless.

That’s straight up abuse. That is not okay. He is not worth your tears, at all. It’s time to focus on just you and your beautiful babies. You are worthy of love and support.

Fuck that and fuck him. Someone who truly loves you, loves you no matter what. I have gained 50 lbs(so has my husband)since I’ve been with my husband after 3 kids and he loves every inch of me still. Your boyfriend is a selfish piece of shit and he’s emotionally abusive and that shit is not okay. I hope you find the strength to leave him.

Ugh I hate this kind of person and just some tough love here but why be in a relationship with this person? There are much better human beings out there than him for you. I know it's scary but just leave. It's not worth the mental abuse he's putting you through and most likely will continue to do. You can't even start doing actual exercise until after 6 weeks postpartum to avoid any issues.

With my first child the bd told me on our way home from the hospital that I need to get “my old body back” and made me feel horrible about myself. I starved myself and lost all self esteem. I can tell you after all that it never got better he was still very mentally abusive and girlll let me tell you.. there are people who will love you and you deserve better!! I am so sorry to hear your going through this. Just know there is someone out there who will make you feel gorgeous and love you for you.. 🫶🏼 I didn’t date for years after we broke up but it took me that long to learn to love myself again. Don’t let him take that away from you.🙏🏼

I cant fathom how someone can disrespect the mother of their children. You have given birth two weeks ago, youve done someone larger than life and any man who feels comfortable disrespecting or make you feel any type of way about your body, the body that birthed HIS children, is a little bitch! He sounds like an insecure narcissist. You deserve someone who will value, appreciate and support you!if you have friends and family around you, lean on them for support and be kind to yourself. Youve just given birth so your hormones and body are going through some huge changes.

Hey guys thank you all. I guess you all told me what I already knew but needed to hear. I used to be so confident and happy and now I’m just a shell of myself, I can’t barely look at myself in the mirror (I always say it’s karma I used to love myself) haha anyways….yeah I think I see him differently now after this, after having our son I expected to feel a bit insecure about my body because of the pregnancy not because my boyfriend is forcing these confidence issues on me….he doesn’t understand how bad what he says is, probably a manipulation tactic just keeps saying ‘you said stuff you don’t mean too’ (like stupid etc😂) ah well…I’ve had problems with eating disorders my whole life which was why I looked so different when we got together vs now. For the first time in my life I was happy and comfortable and now I’m paying for it. He’s gone to work after sleeping on the couch I’ve blocked his messages I’m going to have a big think about things. Nobody deserves this after children

My last baby was 10lbs too so I was told I have suffered a prolapse I feel like I ruined my body he once loved to give him a family. I don’t deserve this and the constant battling with myself is too much I’m struggling just to even be here at this point I think I have pnd or something on top of this I just feel worthless all the time 😞💔thank you all

This is disgusting I wouldn’t put up with that AT ALL know your worth !! ❤️Never let a man speak down to you & feel like that that’s not love it’s defo mental abuse. Couldn’t have even give him the satisfaction of me being upset over it own your body and be confident you can have someone with click of fingers too with confidence tell him that IM ANGRY OVER THIS it’s got me mad x

Good for you realizing that this is not a good relationship. Get yourself and your kid some love from family and friends in the meantime while you work on getting yourself out of this situation.

Update I broke up with him today 🥲