Ghusl afro hair struggle
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I’m also not sure if this is a rant as i have searched and searched and talked to different ladies about this and there is absolutely no solution or no way of making it easier. I have always said i don’t think it’s fair too but Allah knows best and so we do as He says. This is still an issue for me as sometimes i feel like i want to control when we get intimate depending on whether or not i can sort out my hair which sometimes gets in the way of spontaneous intimacy 😪. I’m just praying everyday for Allah to make it easy for me and i have started slowly accepting it more which is making intimacy better. I’ve just decided to stop caring too much about the hair issue, whatever happens happens.
I've read somewhere that if you can plait your hair and it's a certain length, it's fine for ghusl? I've got curly hair too and find this method easier
@Munise Yes definitely having your hair in plaits is fine. I’m African and we always have our hair in plaits. It’s easier for ghusl but still gets rough and dry very easily and sometimes you just want your hair free flowing and fancy too 😌
Ok now I feel so ignorant reading this 😪 my husband is Nigerian n the hair issue used to be a problem too! I know he hates washing it and I also know in the beginning of our marriage the thought of it used to determine alot lol I think he’s slowly learnt to get over it but I suppose its easier for a man than it is for women, I’ve never thought about it from your pov! I suppose this is part of your jihad and may Allah reward you all for your efforts♥️ But side note - am I wrong in thinking that as part of ghusl your scalp needs to touch water so would it be ok for us to run wet fingers or water thru our scalps as opposed to standing under flowing water? Does that make sense? I know it will still mess with ur hair or setting 🤷🏽♀️
I keep my hair in cornrows pretty much. I usually get it straightened when I'm on my period so it lasts a little longer
@Na'imah that’s quite ideal. I started getting cornrows myself. Even if that gets rough it’s not too bad. Good idea to straighten your hair during periods although i don’t get much periods now being on the pill and all. I miss my nail polish too which i used to enjoy styling when i had periods 😅
Salam sis. I feel your pain as i am exactly the same. I had a period where i didn’t want to do anything with hubby because i absolutely hate wetting my hair when i don’t need to. Not only is it difficult to dry, set and style, constantly wetting my hair makes it dryer and itchy which in turn makes it break. Whenever i go to the salon and get something fancy done, i look even more attractive to hubby so he’s particularly keen then but the last thing i want to do is ruin the gorgeous hair i just paid a lot to get done.