I feel disconnected from my newborn
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Your doing amazing and it’s okay to lay you little one down for 5 minutes in a safe environment if you need a minute. Babies go off your emotions if you’re stressed out and upset they might be to, so it’s OK to take a minute breathe and know that you’re a priority to. You got this!
Post partum hormones are pretty wild so cut yourself some slack and give yourself grace. It will get better in a few weeks and definitely getting some sleep when bub is safely with your mom is going to make you feel so much better. For what it’s worth my daughter cried a lot when I held her too and it made me so upset at first. They can smell you/ the milk and want to feed more which is a problem they don’t have with others and that’s why they are more calm. Don’t despair, it definitely gets better. Hang in there.
Please please please do not say you hate your self or blame yourself for any of your emotions. This is just postpartum hormones. You are doing fine and doing a great job. Remember, time will pass... you just gave birth 2 weeks ago, right! Tell yourself everything will be alright. I got this! May GOD continue to bless you and your family.
Hey, this is not uncommon, my friend told me it took her 4 months to connect with and love her daughter. It isn’t instantaneous for everyone and there isn’t anything wrong with you. I hope your mom and bd can be more understanding but you need extra help in the beginning regardless of your level of connection with the baby. My husband took 2 weeks off work to be with us and that didn’t feel like nearly long enough but it was what we had. I did find it helpful have a meal train sign up online. This just meant I didn’t have to think about food for us. Not sure if that would be helpful for you either. But I would seek support for the ppd from your dr/midwife, they may have resources to get you mental health support. But give it time, your bond will grow even though it feels hopeless right now. It’s gonna be ok, reach out on here if you need someone to talk to 🤍
It’s so hard in the beginning, everything is new. I remember being a huge nervous reck, not knowing if I’m doing the right things for my little girl. We are almost three months in and I am feeling more confident and connecting with her way more now than when she was two weeks old. I find overthinking is the main culprit here but also hormones hijack emotions it takes some time to settle but it will get better and easier. The best thing I found was to reframe my thoughts when they came up and take a breather even if that means you disconnect from baby for 5mins or an hour to just settle the nervous system down. Also don’t take baby being fussy with you personal at that age in fact at any age they have an immature nervous system, I found taking my top off and having her lay on me was really good for getting connected with her and regulating each others systems. You are doing amazing even though you may not think or feel it atm you truly are xx
It took me 3 months to connect with my baby. I felt the same way you’re feeling like I was just babysitting her. You’re doing an amazing job and soon you’re gonna feel better e connected to your baby.
You’re doing good, I felt the same way not being able to sooth my baby at first but it will get better. What helped me is honestly just laying down and crying or holding him and crying. My mom is definitely better with him than me but I think it just takes time. If you feel you need help emotionally please reach out to the appropriate people, it’s helped me a lot. Praying for you mama, your doing wonderful don’t forget that💜💜
I hear This is 100% normal. It took my friend a month to feel connected to her baby. Just keep going! And you’re not a bad mom at all!!! Especially if you’re feeling that way and still there for her. That shit is hard and you’re still doing it! Give yourself more credit and grace you’ve got this and this will pass! + w/ your baby daddy not being there.. there’s so much more stress going on then just your baby. Don’t be so hard on yourself
It took me around 3 months, it was the hardest time of my life. I think this is so much more common than we think. All I heard was people telling me the bond would be amazing, it wasn’t and I felt terrible about that. But it is now and he’s 7 months, it will happen. Speak to people you trust about this and don’t feel alone! You’re doing amazing, don’t put yourself down xxx
There’s nothing wrong with you. I was disconnected with my first when she was born. I physically responded to her and was always there to take care of her, but I felt hallow inside. I had depression and ptsd during pregnancy and afterwards. Slowly things got better for me. Please talk to your doctor about how your feeling and look into therapy. It’s good that you have physical support but they need to stop the judgement. That doesn’t help you. Somethings you might try: journaling, using a meditation app like Calm or Gentle Birth.
I think babies can sense the energy or vibe of their mom- I would assess the cause of crying and address that first. And gives lots n lots of love to my little one- it will get better I promise ♥️♥️♥️
@Priety this is sooooo true. When I’m happy, he’s happy. Noticed this so much recently x
I am struggling with PPD as well & also live with my mother and partner. I feel horrible because I have to pass her off to them both for a few hours every day, just to get some sleep, so I can be happier around bubs. My mum is luckily super supportive. I always say why is she so good for you guys but not me. She always reminds me baby feeds off my emotions, so if you’re upset, she’s going to be more fussy with you than someone else. It’s super hard but you have to try and be as positive as you can be. Sometimes I have to just walk away and leave her in her bassinet for a second to regroup, so I can go back to her happily rather than anxious and upset. None of this means anything’s wrong with you either. You’re adjusting to a new life & have plenty of hormones running through you right now. It may even be worth seeing a GP to help with some resources for PPD.