Has anyone else dealt with an extremely jealous husband ?

Baby… that is abusive. That is mental and emotional abuse. He is cutting you off from any and everyone. You are basically isolated on a remote island and solely dependent on him. You need to get out of this situation. It is not safe and honestly I am scared for you. With a baby in the picture it will just get worse. I am willing to bet he will start calling you a shitty mother if you try to go do anything with the baby, will say you’re abandoning them, or will use the baby against you in any other way he can think of to control you. Which those things would be FALSE, but it’s just another method of control. He is hitting every single box of a abusive except for physical which is not far off as most physical abuse starts off as extreme control.

Wow my middle sister recently got out of an toxic relationship may 2023 and she live in Katy tx whoa. Glad she make that decision and move back home to fl.

I am not one for telling people to leave their unions but this one is a big Red flag. Isolating you from everyone including church is just the beginning. I hen he has you fully isolated and scared to leave the house then you will be at his mercy and you won’t be able to tell anyone. Control and isolation is just the first steps to the physical abuse. You are grossly underestimating the type of abuse you are going through. Please talk to someone about your partners behaviour.

The only person I have to talk to is my mom but she pretty much just says not to let him control you and don’t give into it and it’ll stop but it’s just not .. my whole family adores him and I do too until It’s a birthday or celebration of any kind and it’s a fight to go or to have my one friend left to be invited and then when I finally Break he switches back to the sweet man,” what’s wrong babe, just talk to me, what did I do ? Yada yada yada and acts like he’s just playing around and being nice now and I guess after being in the relationships I’ve been in this one’s the best but at the same time I’m the most secluded I’ve ever been in my entire life and it’s lonely and it’s exhausting to have to argue about doing anything socially or having anything to do with anyone other than his mom and sister. I don’t see him as abusive but I guess he fits all the marks for emotional and mental and I guess I just let it be because “at least he’s not physically abusing me .. or cheating on me..

I’ve been debating on posting this for a while but after tonight I really just needed to vent because I literally have no one who listens and acts like it’s just okay and normal to have happen or like my mom she just said how she never liked my friends either so she doesn’t see anything wrong with him not liking them and what feels like to me sides with him. I been fighting depression this whole entire pregnancy due to me not being able to have friends or talk to my last one about “his baby” because he don’t like her. I’m just lonely and mentally and emotionally exhausted from being so alone and literally not having anyone to talk to anymore

At this point I had given up hanging out with a friend or going anywhere by myself or literally anything I enjoyed doing for the sake of peace and it’s just been taking my inner peace little by little and it takes things like this to wake me up a little bit to realize that this ain’t normal .. or right .. and in all reality kind of inhumane to seclude someone all day everyday, literally 24/7 unless it’s his mom or sisters and sometimes my mom

It’s a lot but I appreciate yall who replied/reply, I just really really needed to vent to people who aren’t on one or the others side and would give me honest thoughts/advice about this situation because I’ve only heard the thoughts of people who are able to make decisions off of personal experiences

Please don’t take this personally, even tho it is personal. I’m a therapist, this is a form of abuse. It’s known as power and control. Sometimes it’s said to get worse when people are vulnerable such as when there is a third party introduced. Especially when a baby is born. He needs to seek counselling, especially when you need other supports such as friends ect. Please look after yourself. If any other factors come into play, please seek counselling. You can look up wheel of control.

@Courtney everything you’re saying about how you feel is sounding like you’re miserable. You know this isn’t the way to live. Ask yourself this, how would you feel if your daughter was in a relationship like this? You’ve said that he has issues with you being with your own family, what if your baby girl got with a man one day who told her she couldn’t see you? I truly think you are in a dangerous situation and need to leave…

Your partner definitely needs counselling to get to the root of his jealousy because it’s not the normal kind of jealous he has. I know for a fact it’s not going to just go away on its own.

Thank y’all I really appreciate the responses i been needing facts for a while , it’s weird because I know it’s not normal or right and yet because of the good parts I’ve been letting too much slide and doing more for the founds of everyone else except myself, I’m literally the only one who’s dealing with the negative impacts of it and I guess I just loved the rest of the picture so much I’ve been covering and burying the part that matters for myself

@Courtney it’s understandable! I have been in an abusive relationship in the past. You make excuses until you start vocalizing it and realize one way or another that you deserve better. Which you do! You deserve to be TRUSTED, loved, and adored. Not just by a man but by your family and friends. Right now you’re not getting much from anyone because the man who claims to give you that keeps others away from being able to do that.

Please remember Courtney, just because there is one red flag doesn’t necessarily mean that you have to jump ship or leave the relationship. Please do not think all hope is lost, seek appropriate support and maybe encourage your partner too as well. Validate him and tell him it must be hard to have those insecure thoughts, reassure him that you love him and that you wouldn’t do anything to hurt him. However, also let him know that his jealousy is isolating and that you aren’t happy with certain aspects of behaviour. See how he responds. Please look up wheel of control and anxious attachment. Maybe you will find those resources helpful and relatable. Thank you for being brave and opening up on such a sensitive and close to you issue. You aren’t alone and there are many other couples with the same experiences xx best of luck with everything and the baby xx

@Kiarra @Jessica thank y’all I really appreciate it ❤️

I feel like you wrote this for me except I'm not pregnant (

Girl I feel this so Bad and have been through it multiple times

I hope the best for you. You deserve to have meaningful connections with people outside of your union and outside of being a mother. The right connections can Nurture your other relationships and help you to manage strong emotions and work through short comings. They can make us better partners, friends, parents and overall, people. I hope everything goes well for you.

Oh sweetheart, I understand more than I care to admit.

Girl, what do you mean he isn't abusive? He doesn't have to be hitting you for their to be abuse. Isolating you and keeping you from doing anything that brings you joy is most definitely mental abuse and that can be more damaging than physical abuse at times because bruises heal, that mental shit sticks with you forever(or until you seek counciling). I would say confront him, but that could make it worse for you. I lost my sister to a murder suicide because she confronted her abuser(her husband) about his behavior and I couldn't bare that happening to another person, even if you are a stranger. But you both need counciling and if he isn't willing to do his part or work on improving his behavior to make you feel safe happy and comfortable then you need to get out because youre only going to teach your child(ren) to accept that kind of behavior or behave the same way and that most definitely is toxic. You and your babies deserve better.

Imo you need to leave him ASAP. He isn’t physically abusive YET. Once he thinks he has you isolated from everyone in your life other than him it will start, and once it starts it won’t stop. I hope you can get away from him safely