Caught my boyfriend sitting at the bar with another woman

I’m so hurt! I had Happy Hour plans with a friend. At the last minute we changed the location. When I passed by the restaurant looking for parking I saw my boyfriend’s car parked out front. My heart immediately began racing because I had called to check in a couple of times and his phone kept giving me this message to try again. I had already texted him but hadn’t received a response. I finally found parking and walked towards the restaurant. His car was still parked out front. When I walked in, I saw him sitting at the bar with some woman eating and having drinks. In an effort to not make a scene in the crowded restaurant, I walked by him, patted him on the back and said what’s up. He didn’t even flinch. I was seated at a table not too far away and waited to see what he was going to do. He looked back at me a couple of times but continued with his “date”. All of a sudden, he leaves the restaurant and the girl remained at the bar. I called him and he face timed me with a smirk on his face. The girl left the restaurant and then he re-entered coming straight to my table and pleading his case. Again, in an effort to not make a scene I told him he was beyond disrespectful and to leave me alone. Of course He told me it wasn’t what I thought it was. BS! He said the woman was a friend from the gym and she had mentioned going to lunch so he just went without a thought. Wtf!? He’s been texting and apologizing profusely but that was the ultimate disrespect. What should I do now? We’ve been together for SEVEN years!

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Girl leave. Boyfriend of 7 years for a reason. You deserve better. Leave

You’re right. I know it’s time. It has been time.

Girl have him kick rocks if you take him back or forgive he’ll only do it again you don’t deserve that show him you aren’t going to tolerate it disrespect is disrespect and to only show he didn’t care at all about you I’m sorry but this should show you how much you mean to him now

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If he was gunna go to lunch with another female he should have just told you the truth. And I’m sure that would have been better than hiding it from you. Girl no matter what a guy will do what he wants when he wants that’s why he smirked at you. Just let it be and just tell him to be real with you next time. Aslong as he’s keeping a roof over your head and is providing for you and your family don’t worry about anything else because he’ll be coming back home to you either way.

@Joseline I'm sorry but I feel like this is not good advice. Just let it be? He'll be coming back home to you anyways? That's essentially saying let him do what he wants bc at least he's providing for you. Fuck that lmao. He needs to GO.

If it was actually something innocent with just a friend, despite all the obvious red flags of him not answering his phone, leaving without talking to you and then waiting for her to leave before coming back in, he would have introduced you to her. He met a girl at the gym and was being single, so let him be single and find someone who won’t do this to you - there are good ones out there!

Sitting at the bar… I would’ve cracked a bottle across the back of that head 😭 I’m not big on telling another woman what to do with the man she loves BUT that smirking on FaceTime!!? Would’ve sent me through the roof he thinking it’s funny!? If you can girl, leave his ass he’s worthless.

Idk how you did it. I woulda made a WHOLEEEE BIIIIGGG ASS SCENE!! 7 years smh thas just sad, ik that makes it real hard buuut FUCCCCKK THAT! Ain't no way in hell. Those ain't red flags baby that's a whole ass bunch of hell nahs!

Forget not making a scene. We would've had a scuffle 😭

@Courtney men will be men they don’t do shit with feelings so there’s really nothing to worry about aslong as he’s coming home and providing who really cares.

If it was just some girl from the gym, I think he may have introduced you both, if he had nothing to hide. It’s gonna be a hard decision, but in your heart I think you know what you have to do. Good luck

Maybe get her side?

What’s even more crazy is now he’s trying to gaslight me. He went from being so apologetic to saying it’s not that serious and I’m overreacting. He said he’s apologized and that’s it. This is exhausting.

@Anna unfortunately I have no way of getting in touch with her, unless I pull up to the gym.

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@Terri exactly. He shouldn’t have been there with her in the first place but the fact that he ignored me while entertaining her speaks volumes.

@👑Jess👑 things are clearer in hindsight. If I could do it again I would’ve sat at the bar with them and introduced myself to her while embarrassing him 🤣. I hate people being in my business so I opted to play it cool.

@Christin hell to the naw naw naw! I froze up. Plus there was an old friend of mine sitting in the restaurant with another group. I didn’t want her going to run tell that after checking him. 😩

@Charlotte the smirk sent me into a rage! When he re-entered the restaurant I cussed him out with the biggest smile on my face. 🤪