Anyone else’s partner nit picking about everything?

Baby girl is 4 weeks tomorrow. I had a c section so literally couldn’t do much in the first week other than feed her and sleep. He was really helpful. But as I’ve started to regain some sort of independence again, seems like he’s just starting to nit pick at everything. People coming over, what I’m doing etc. I know he’s annoyed that he had to go back to work but it’s like he’s annoyed that I’m staying at home and “not working” even though I’m with baby girl all the time. Definitely feel like we’re in the roommate phase that so many people have mentioned. Got him a present for being so helpful in the first few weeks but yeah defo just feels like we’re roommates. Not really kissing, no I love you when he leaves for work, we’re literally co parenting, while living together. Anyone else going through the same phase?

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Wft you have a 4 week old and had a c-section AND you bought HIM a gift and he’s already complaining!!!?? Sorry throw the whole man away I can’t believe what I’m reading 🗑️ 🚩

9 month old and yes still nit pick at things but think that's due to both being tired. The not saying I love you etc isn't good 🤔 my partner always gives us cuddles and kisses before he goes and when he comes back. Have you spoken to your partner about the lack of affection?

Yeah I agree with above comment. Tiredness can cause us all to act out a bit and maybe be a bit resentful over small things or get into competition over who’s more tired or who’s working harder 🤦🏼‍♀️ maybe sit him down and calmly ask him if all is ok or if there is something bothering him?

Ignore him. Tf is he sulking for????? Use your energy on yourself and child. They usually behave like this and need a good dose of reality that baby now comes first.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Here’s a timeline that outlines what couples typically experience during the first year after having a baby. I am not at all condoning his behavior, but I will add in for perspective that guys can also experience postpartum depression with the big changes you’re experiencing he may be feeling overwhelmed and feeling the weight of being the provider. Again not saying how he’s handling it is excused, but this is a good time for you to have an honest conversation. You can say something like “wow these past 4 weeks have been kind of wild, huh?” And see how he responds. Then you can say something like “ I’m really missing us time, can we plan a night to watch a movie together (or something you two enjoy doing together). Right now you’re still recovering and should be doing as little physical activity as possible.

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