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Wits end (rant)

Just going to rant in the hopes it'll help clear my head. I'm 40+2 and I know it's not that much overdue but heck I'm so ready for her to come now 😭 Last Thursday had a sweep and midwife thought my waters were broken so I had to go and get a swap - spent the 4 hours in the waiting area mentally preparing for the reality that I could be having baby that weekend. When they confirmed my waters were there and still a waiting game just felt so disheartened. Lost mucus plug the weekend and had some cramps so thought, yep things are happening.... Since then still nothing and I feel fine 😭 Had another sweep yesterday - 0 side effects. Constantly got friends/ family asking how I am, saying have a hot curry, have sex, do squats or asking when baby is coming and that I should hurry up. As if I wouldn't just magic her here myself if I could 😂 Have an induction booked for next week which I really don't want as it sounds horrible (balloon) but at the same time feel like the clock is ticking and like I have to rush things for various reasons: Baby is just getting bigger, got my mom & brother travelling to the UK for a week on the 30th so wanted her here before that so that I don't have to spend the first week with baby feeling like I've got constant guests. Not to mention birth may not go as planned and could end up being in hospital for a couple days 🤷 Not to mention, wasting maternity leave that I wanted to use to spend with her and supposed to be caring for her and the longer she takes to come the less time I'll have 😭 So long story short, feeling so many things and but mostly just feel awful. I know birth expectations never go to plan but I really never expected this and I think if it wasn't for the pressures from others comments, financial with mat leave and even just the physical strain, I'd be quite happy to just let her come when she is ready. To whoever continued reading, thanks for reading - fully aware I probably sound ridiculous but I'm hoping I'll feel better if I just get it out 🙂

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I’m completely there with you, got a sweep on Tuesday and going to ask there and then to be booked in for an induction. I’m so uncomfortable, not sleeping and feel like my mat leave is escaping me. This is baby number 2 and my LG came a month early so think I expected an early baby as well.

I understand! You are strong and you can make the right decision for you and your baby. If you are u happy you can always ask to bring your induction forward if you are struggling, physically and or mentally! I’m now 40 + 5 I was sent to triage on Tuesday for reduced movements had monitoring and she was fine so they gave me a sweep, I lost all my plug and got contractions/ cramps, I then didn’t feel her for hours in the evening/night so I went back on Wednesday morning, they started an induction at 4pm as I was 1cm and not effaced enough for the balloon. I had a pesery for 30 hours and it thinned out my cervix slightly but didn’t change my dilation I was feeling very upset and overwhelmed (last night) they then offered me another one and I declined, I chose the gel instead which they put in for 6 hours, Was checked and I was 3cm 50% affaced and I’m now waiting to go to the labour ward which is very busy to have my waters broken and get this baby out xxx

You got this, whatever your birth story ends up being, you will do amazing and do what feels right for you x

@Jasmine thank you! Good luck hopefully you don't have to wait too long to get to the labour ward!! And when you do hope it all goes smoothly and a safe delivery 🤞🙌 I've also noticed babies movements have seemed 'odd' the last week or so, almost like she just isn't moving as much and every day wondering if I should get checked but then I feel her move and tell myself I'm overthinking... Have been in tow minds all day about getting her checked just to be safe but I hate wasting people's time! Xx

I am 100% here with you all ladies! Baby was due 18th May! Since then I have had 3 sweeps, first one was pretty useless, second and third showed that my cervix have shortened but it’s still got some ripening to do and I’ve still not lost my internal plug! Induction is booked for tomorrow but there’s so many negative connotations behind it, I’ve been hoping that baby would just naturally come before, but so far not looking likely. I’m stuck between wanting her here but potentially waiting days in hospital and waiting for natural labour but potentially having issues and not being able to birth her naturally anyway! I finished work and started mat leave officially at 39+2 thinking I’d barely have any time off before she came and here I am at 41 weeks exactly pulling my hair out wondering where she is 🙃 good luck ladies whatever happens, our babies are obviously just far too comfortable 🤣

Same boat 🤍 I’m 40+4 today and only just lost my mucus plug x It’s hard going mentally and physically isn’t it :( x