Not celebrating birthdays, tips and advice please

My little girl also has a cousin a few months behind, they intend to celebrate birthdays so navigating that will be hard too. Any advice here would be greatly appreciated.

We also decided that we won’t be celebrating birthdays. My family also wanted to celebrate my son’s birthday as he’s the first grandchild from my mums side but I said no. We didn’t do anything for his first birthday just treated as any other normal day. Even before my son was born me and my husband never went to any birthday parties, and we plan on continuing the same with all our kids.

Wa^alaykumus salaam sister , may i start by saying well done for choosing this path to not celebrate what is derived from the non muslims. I too had this issue with certain people outside of our household (not in laws), and what we do is we make ^eid days and ramaDaan more special, so we would decorate and also you could throw a party when the child is mumayyiz around 7 lunar years where they can pray and practice wearing the hijaab. You dont need to prove anything to anyone else, unfortunately not everyone understands this and see's the enormity of the sin when celebrating and glorifying such events but make sure the intention isnt ever to celebrate the birthday. You dont even need to mention to them that it is their birthday and something special needs to happen each year on that specific day

So we celebrated birthdays, Christmas, Easter etc with my children before I reverted. I thought it was a massive change for them to just suddenly drop Christmas as it's hugely celebrated in the UK. So I did it slowly, stop decorating the house first and then reduced the presents. I've told them they'll just have things for Eid instead. I have brought up the birthday thing with my husband (he's born Muslim) but he doesn't see a problem with celebrating children's birthdays as they're only little. We don't celebrate ours though.

We haven't come to her first birthday yet but we've just told people we don't celebrate. I told my mom(she's not muslim so a bit more tricky) we won't be doing anything. She's not impressed but it is our baby at the end of the day. It's not easy but for the sake of Allah it's worth just being clear with everyone.

Walkum asalam. Maybe have a compromise. Not actually celebrating birthday itself. But around the birthdate invite family to eat and spend time together. That’s what my family does for birthdays. We used to celebrate with cake and singing the happy birthday song and stuff. But not anymore lol my husband is very adamant about not celebrating. He won’t say happy birthday to me until the day after lol

I'm in a difficult situation myself, my husband wants to celebrate it with a party, inviting friends and family but I don't, if anything I'd rather just have a nice dinner with family on a weekend close to the birthday.

Why not celebrating Is it haram do you have soura in the Quran that said birthday are haram ??

@sarita its mentioned in the Hadith "Whoever imitates a people is one of them.” Birthday celebrations, valentines day, so called christmas, so called easter, New years are all derived from non muslims Do not raise your children to imitate non-Muslims. *Non-believers are not your brothers. These are enemies of Islam. They are the enemies of the Prophet!* We as Muslims have our own celebrations and do not imitate the kuffar.