MiL got an invite to our babyshower

Honestly not sure if it was the right call. I call myself trying to make amends for the sake of my baby but the disrespect is intolerable and not sure how she’ll treat my child when she gets here. My husband doesn’t care for his mom due to her disrespecting me for over 2years and constantly stabbing him in the back. I’ve tried asking her out to dinner to talk about things and she refused. I’ve received 2 apologies, Hubbz forced, but her actions and disrespectful ways didn’t change. Which resulted in Hubbz cutting off his mom. Should Ive not told him we should invite her? Should I Stand by my husband’s decision? or bring him to therapy and hope for the best outcome? Since they’re pressuring him to go out of state to his son’s birthday party when he’s worried about the potential possibility of missing the birth of our daughter is giving me high anxiety. Are they not going to care about my daughter? Are they going to start keeping the bm informed about my child like they’ve done this entire time about my family?

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Sounds like a toxic MIL! If your husband is not pursuing having a relationship with her, then why should you? I know for the baby, but if you're not 100% sure she's going to love your baby unconditionally, why even bother? If she wanted to, she would! If she wanted to have a relationship with your family, she would and wouldn't do anything to disrespect you and your husband. However, if you do pursue a relationship with her, just be very careful! Do not trust her one bit! I hope everything goes well! 🫶🏼

@Grachel she’s very manipulative and I’m trying to avoid more drama but I think you’re right and it won’t be that easy to avoid more conflict. I’ve always heard how she talks about the bm and how she plays the game just to see her grandson but runs to her gossiping about us. And how she’d attempt to go to court for “grandparents rights” if she didn’t allow her to see her grandson and is okay with the bm using baby boy as a pawn. I know won’t get very far because my therapist and family as witnesses plus ring camera as proof she causes major emotional distress it’s the unnecessary court travel and fees that I don’t feel like dealing with.

She would have no leg to stand on if she never met the unborn child. I would go no contact

@Stephani 🌺 E oh I wish I could show you the ring video from her making a scene at our house in front of my Stepson the next time she came to drop him off he said he was scared and never has he ever said anything about being scared to come in our house. I felt like she really attacked my character for me not to have ever done anything but tell her she was being inconsiderate of our schedules and keeping up with his nightly routine.