I feel this down to my core!

I have felt this many times with my in laws unfortunately, it's a crappy situation to be in!

@Laura it sure is! I’m low contact with my mother. It’s hard having such a strained relationship with her while being a first time mom myself.

So sorry you're going through that! It's taken a few years for everything with my mother in law to come to light. My husband has been in therapy, and we've also had less contact while he's finding himself and sorting it out. Can I ask if you've ever experienced any guilt from going low contact and how you deal with it?

@Laura it’s good that your husband is in therapy and seeking the help to navigate such a thing. I probably should be in therapy as well. 🫠 I have A LOT of guilt! The person that my mother is today is not the same person that raised me and I think that’s where my guilt comes from. I suspect that my mother is bipolar and that she managed to control it with the help of my father and grandmother. Sadly they have both passed and my mother quickly spiraled out of control. I think my guilt comes from the fact that I feel a sense of obligation to the person that raised me but not to the person she is today… if that makes sense. This guilt is managed better some days than others but I just keep reminding myself that our relationship is the way that it is as a result of her words/actions, not mine.

Ooft I definitely needed to see this today