Trouble adjusting
Is it me, or has anybody else felt really hard finding who they are as a person again after becoming a SAHM. Before having my baby, I used to have so many hobbies. And interests. And now I guess I’m just really having a hard time finding a sense of self. All of my time is dedicated to my baby and keeping my house nice and tidy as well as cooking. it’s so hard to explain, but I just feel like I don’t really know myself anymore outside of being a mom if that makes sense. Its also considerably hard making friends, considering I’m on the younger side. (22) and a lot of the people I used to associate with previously either don’t want kids ever. Or that’s not even something that they’re even thinking about now. And I’m not saying I don’t like being a SAHM. I love spending time with my daughter and I love seeing her learn things and grow and gain a personality. I also love the whole cooking and cleaning thing. But sometimes I do feel lost and alone when it comes to motherhood. My partner is amazing help, when he’s able to he will take the baby so I can relax and have some me time. But when I get me time, I have no idea what to even do with it. Because now it feels like my whole personality is being a mom. Has anybody else felt this way? And if so, how did you navigate it?
Yes! I have older kids but just started my SAHM journey a couple years ago. It was a hard adjustment for me as well. Love the kids, love my life but sometimes yearn for some space and individuality. My suggestion is to try and work in some you time. Set a you time schedule. You decide how often that is. Naptime, find time to do something you like. Exercise, journal, read. It can also be 1 hour when your partner is home that you step away from the house and family. Go to the gym, walk around somewhere that makes you happy.