What would you do or how would you handle this situation:

Husband and I have been together for 15 yrs. About 8 years ago husband and his brother got into a big fight and no longer speak to each other, even if they’re in the same room. His brother has softened up a bit and wants to make a mends but my husband feels he no longer likes the person his brother is and wants nothing to do with him. Doesn’t wish him any harm has just chosen not to interact with him over the years. His brother’s wife (so my sister in law) has invited us to their child’s birthday party. My sister in law and I really don’t talk that often (for other reasons) but we’re always cordial. I feel like every time they have something at their house they send the invite to ME not my husband… so it puts me in an awkward position to announce if we are going or not. I normally decline because my husband just won’t go. But I do sometimes feel bad because the kids ARE cousins. What would you do?

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If your husband is okay with you interacting with them I would take the kids and let him skip. It is nice to allow them to know their family. If your husband doesn't want you to interact with them then decline going. I guess as long as they are decent to you and are trying to fix a broken relationship it's worth at least giving them some ability to try even if your husband never changes him mind

@Liv yeah I agree, I was basically about just write out the same reply but easier just to agree with you lol

I would go. My husband’s issue has nothing to do with the kids enjoying time together. Unless there is toxic relationships or abuse happening.

My dad and his two brothers have fought for years and us cousins got affected in the midst of it. It is a huge regret of mine for not trying more despite our fathers petty grudges. I havent spoken or seen my cousins since we were in elementary school. They are my only cousins my age so basically i dont have any cousins I talk to. Its just sad. I wished my parents didnt do this and put in my more effort for the sake of us kids.

I’d just go alone with the kids. Not fair to them to be deprived of that special cousin bond because of their dad’s issue.

@Liv his brother and sis in law are always decent to me so I have no problem with them. I guess I’m also a little hesitant because some of his other family that will be there are bullies and I refuse to be around them by myself so it makes navigating all of this difficult

I would continue communicating, sometimes families like that need a bridge to unite them. Many of his family sends me invites and stuff to me directly and not my husband.

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