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Sounds to me like he only listens so you'll stop yelling or hitting him. Are you in a state with school choice? Maybe the school isn't meeting his needs? Maybe he wasn't / isn't ready for school and he's having a tough transition. Whatever you think might help, I'd do the opposite since it isn't actually doing anyone any good.
@Nicole that’s the thing I barely yell or whoop him like I literally cry at the fact of me putting my hands on him , he was in prek last year and didn’t do any of the things he’s doing now . His teacher says he’s super smart , he’ll finish all his work before everyone else and she thinks he just gets bored and does stuff so she was going to start giving him more challenging assignments . My mom thinks I should get him evaluated for adhd because he is super hyper like he runs around 24/7 until it’s time for bed
My 5 yr old is being diagnosed with adhd right now and exhibits all of this with school as well. He's to young for meds but he will start doing behavior therapy sessions soon and I'm hoping it helps.
@Niyka I am going to get started on getting my son checked out asap . I don’t want him on medicine thoo if that is an option .. I hope everything works out for you and your baby 🤍
@Mimie let me get this correct , you’re entitled to feel like it’s your fault or feel guilty / selfish that your baby has autism right ? but I can’t feel embarrassed and feel like I’m failing as a parent that my sons behavior is “ wild “ as you say .. never once said that I didn’t object to thinking he had adhd . I simply said it’s embarrassing that I keep getting notes sent home about his behavior and that I’m trying to get him under control by myself with no help , after consistently talking and trying to understand why his behavior is out of hand at the moment . But okay miss girl , thanks for your comment . 🤍
I would talk to the school about getting an assessment for an IEP. The school counselor should be able to help you with this. If they give him an IEP he will be entitled to some special additional resources.
Don’t feel like a bad mom! You’re trying your best and seeking help. Every child is different so you just have to keep trying different things which it seems like you’re doing. Don’t underestimate the power of a child that’s not being challenged. If he’s finishing assignments early the school has to give him additional things to do/learn while he waits for his classmates to catch up. This was the case with my husband as a child and he had to be moved to a more challenging private school that my single MIL could afford. Now I notice my 5 year old gets hyper active when he has too much screen time. Idk if that’s the case in your home but i did learn about another family that refused adhd medication and instead 100% removed screen time and saw night/day improvements. As a pregnant mom of an advanced 5 year old, i know that is easier said than done. Wishing you and baby boy all the best but please give yourself grace during this delicate time in your life 💗
Could he be regressing due to the changes of a new baby and starting kindergarten. Some kids regress when changes happen and want extra attention. Have you tried a reward chart? When he comes home with a good report, he gets a star added to his reward chart. Or anytime he is listening to you or another adult especially the teacher. Is there any time you can think of when he does listen to you or someone else. Maybe roleplaying school and taking turns being the student/teacher and acting out what it means to be a good listener in class means along with other rules like: one voice at a time, raising our hands and why it is important to follow directions in general. And vice versa for not listening and the consequences for that could help because he will see how the teacher may feel. You aren't a bad mom, he is still learning about what it means to be a student and he's 5. Could you go over his school schedule at home? Movement is good for extra energy.
ABUSE?? 2: DID YOU EVEN GET HIM PREPARED TO BE AWAY FROM HOME LIKE THIS?? 3: 4 REGULAR SCHOOLS ARE TRASH 4: GET HIM TESTED 5: I HAVE NO REAL SYMPATHY 6: HE'S A CHILD AND CHILDREN DON'T NEED STRUCTURE THAT'S ALL SCHOOL REALLY IS 7: HE'S BEING A CHILD WITH A CHANGE OF SITUATION 8: MAYBE STEP BACK AND BREATH INSTEAD OF TEACHING YOUR CHILD HITTING FIXES STUFF OR MAKES PEOPLE ACT RIGHT 9: ABUSE OF ANY FORM CAUSES PHYSICAL TRAUMA TO THE BRAIN 10: BEST OF LUCK FOR BEING A GOOD MOM
Diet is important. Cut the sugar out as much as you can. No sugary drinks- switch to wholesome foods if you can.. too much carbohydrates can affect him.. practice time outs- be stern. And most importantly spend 1:1 time ask him questions, to get the feel of what’s going on.. remember kids do go through phases.. best of luck!
My 4 year old just started kindergarten and is being bullied. I am at my wits end as I protect him like a crazy Mama. Sit him down and let him know the consequences of his actions. Those bullies are the worst and are very scary.
@Mimie this is not helpful. Mom shaming is not appropriate.
Restructure your relationship. If possible take him out just for him to a park and don’t bring up past behavior. Start fresh and before you go somewhere talk about expectations of what is allowed and let him use his words. Avoid conversations about what not to do as it creates negative emotions and has not worked in the past. Let him create positive emotions about boundaries. You are amazing and being a mom is tough. If he does something wrong tell him no and let him throw a fit when he’s done ask him if he wants to play a game. Ignore the behavior create a boundary and redirect child to something productive. Look into “Becky how to end power struggles”. She’s has amazing advice about difficult kids her voice is a struggle for me but she’s helped me with my daughter
The Yes Brain Child would be a good book to checkout.
I'm sorry mama ❤️ My 5 year old was the same way last year in preschool, and he was asked to leave a few months in. Apparently his dad was the same way at this age, so I'm assuming he just got his personality from dad 🙃 I don't have any advice, as I pulled him out and I'm now homeschooling him this year for kindergarten, but I know that's not an easy option for everybody. But I sympathize! I hope they continue to work with you to come up with solutions that will work!