Toddler hitting sibling and throwing
Desperate plea for help and tips!
My toddler keeps hitting. Hits me, dad and worse of all his 11 month old sibling. Has also hit a friend's child and his cousin.
Nothing we have tried so far seems to work and I'm feeling so defeated and like a c#@* parent. I get so angry inside when he hits me or especially his sister and I mostly can hide it but I'm not perfect and I do occasionally shout and it's not nice. I have also had to pick him up and put him down and on the odd occasion I have felt so angry putting him down I have done it with more force then I have meant to.
I have never and will never hit my child (despite what parents have suggested - wtf) but I grew up in a generation where we had the spoon, a slipper or a bare hand smacking wherever on our body so my parents don't know any better.
I want and know I already am doing so much better for my children but it's so so so so tough.
Please tell me this is just a phase or any advice tips or even solidarity welcomed.
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Mine is the same too. After he hits, I show him that the person he has hit is upset and hold his hand to rub them gently and say “nicely, baby’s upset. Say sorry” Me and my partner also show being hit, being upset and then saying sorry. And showing that hitting actually hurts and he’s gotten much better since! X
I could of written this! My 2 year old shoves and smacks her 1 year old brother and other children (her height or smaller). I refuse to take her to a soft play/play café until we resolve it which is a shame. I just keep saying no sternly and removing her from the situation, even though sometimes I want to shout. Like you, she has a younger sibling but I also have a 7 year old and I guess it's her way of trying to get attention? I's so hard, the frustration is real but perseverance is key 🙏 keep going mama, you're doing great xxx