Parenting Time Issues

Just a question looking for other POV.. so, my daughters dad has been forcing weekly parenting time 2 1/2 hours every other day Monday, Wednesday & Friday every week. Which is just another appointment and thing i have to work around. So far after going to court again, he’s only shown up for HALF his visits this month. 🤦🏼‍♀️ I asked him today if he can just give me a heads up each day if he will be there for his visit or not so we’re on the same page. Simple “I’ll be there today, see her at 5:00” nothing too much. So he refuses and says it’s not his problem to let me know anything because he’s letting me know now that he’s gonna be there for all his visits. Which he never is. 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️🤷🏼‍♀️ So this led to me trying to have a conversation, and ultimately a frustrating argument. Also my daughter has after school activities and sports she’s involved with. So i told him i think it’s best he gives me a heads ups and i also check in and let him know if my daughter has obligations or if she’ll be there, etc. With him being so inconsistent, am i wrong for asking for a notification each day before visits to avoid issues? Anybody know what i can possibly do to get this? I’m tired of having to coparent with a narcissistic child.

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Hey girl, it’s not unreasonable at all! Me and my daughter’s dad always confirm visits before they occur even though they are generally the exact same time and day of the week.

@Shayla Bez see, and that’s all I’m asking for. So it’s not last minute. Because i already have sooo much i have to work around through the week, and im a parent 24/7, he only sees his oldest daughter 6 hours a week lol. So all im asking is for communication. Even on my side too because my daughter has soccer practice today and was gonna be late. And if he wasn’t gonna show up then my daughter didn’t have to rush home and change and stress about getting there for nothing. Like, to let everyone know beforehand especially since visits are only 2 hours. 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

You're not wrong, and it's not asking for too much. He's only making himself look bad. I would just try and document everything, especially since he doesn't want to give you any notice. Is there anything in your paperwork that says anything about him not showing up or you being late? I can definitely see the frustration of having to work around him when it should be the other way around. I'm sorry you're having to deal with that 🫶🏾

@Julie no, and that’s where the additional frustration comes in at. I have our 8 year old 365 days a year, i also have a 1 year old i practically take care of alone too, and also 5 months pregnant. So my schedule is hectic enough with have to throw in this ridiculous parenting schedule he insisted on. He’s only shown up for half his visits and then i get nothing until the time of the visit. Asking if my daughter is on her way, or that he’s not showing up last minute. In our agreement is just says he has visits these days. NOTHING ELSE. Which is ridiculous if you ask me. Nothing about times, nothing about an actual schedule, nothing about communication now besides us having to go through AppClose to communicate. And when I’ve told them how difficult it is, all they say is “he’s entitled to see his daughter” 🤦🏼‍♀️