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This man does everything and then some from diapers, wipes, helps with food and even nap time, he let's me sleep for an hour or so and there playing, snacking on fruits or popcorn watching Disney, singing and dancing and it's to the point there's times she dont want me but she calls for him. Her biological thought was that I was cheating on him and kicked us out of the house and all. When he found out that was his child, he was kinda dumb founded mind you, and he is my first! So now at the time me and her biological father are doing everything and he is telling me we are going to get back together but I can't come live with him yet for some b.s reason and poof! He cheated and moved the new girl into the house. They are both sleeping on my bed, and all of mine and the baby stuff are there. Again, he has now gone M.I.A, and I'm moving on too, and in four months, the new guy has done 4x and then some more than her biological father. I'm torn apart
If you didn’t feel the need to put her biological father on them papers I don’t see the need to rush and put this man of 4 months on it your pregnancy was longer and you still ain’t put that man, you may regret it like it seems you regret your bd cause your trying to replace him so bad and I mean this in the most loving big sis way cause girl we is not doing this !! WE HAVE TO PROTECT OUR DAUGHTERS!!! I understand he helps and it’s a huge weight off your shoulders but one day you may not be around and he may not go take that breather in the other room and no amount of diapers he pays for or tv shows he watch can tell you or him when he may just over react… if you realllllly feel like he is a trying man and he doesn’t know better then try the classes and see how you feel then
4 months? You don’t know him yet.. that’s not her daddy.. bless hun for helping but no don’t do it
That is too soon for him to be worried about her birth certificate that’s a little odd to me . Take care of your daughter and wait a little while longer to make that big jump so you know his true intentions in the future.
@Jay i should of made it clearer but the bf i met him in middle school and we have been best friends since we started dating at the was four months but now and today we made 7th months
@Avery i should of made it better my bf is my best friend from middle school and we been cool since at the time we were four months dating but he has been there for everything
@Alyshia i will and thank you so much
Fod, everyone is writing me. Thank you, and as an update, I am going a bit slower because you guys are also right. I don't know if it's the honey moon phase but he has been my best friend since emiddle school and has been there the entire time from baby shower with his ex at the time all the way up til now. He knows her biological father doesn't want her, and he feels bad that there is no father on the certificate and asked me, but me being so skeptical, I feel off, and yet I know him long enough j know it's just he has a good heart but I haven't put him on it or anything
@Dianyse damnnright we got daughters and I sat down and spoke about it the other day. He told me he has a condition in which he can't have kids and he sees how much I'm struggling and doing everything and were now almost 8 months and he said I want to see us marry and be together with another child. He loves my daughter as his, and she doesn't know anything of her biological father since he been disappearing, and then some so she calls my bf her dad. I appreciate it and he said in the beginning it felt weird until he felt her sleep in his arms and that he said he knew he wanted to be her father, he wants to be on the birth certificate that he feeds her does hairstyles, buy her clothing, treats like chips and he loves going out on walks and movie nights with butter less popcorn for the princess and we stay watching Disney movies and he is all about being the prince for the princess and spinning her around and ask to come with me to the doctors, drives me around for her medicine and the family loves him alot
Updats: 7 months, almost 8 months together, and he hasn't changed. Instead, he is asking for more responsibility, and the princess loves him. She calls him daddy, and her biological father hasn't seen her. He said he would eventually see her like smh, I caught him spending $500+ for his gf at Target but not a penny for his child. He skipped out on court date, and if he decides to miss out on this one, they will get a warrant for his arrest. My bf is doing soooo much more . He has a medical condition in which he can't have kids and the way hs acts with her it's almost to perfect, he does her hair talks to her in English and Spanish, he is a teacher ESL teacher and he seems to be almost perfect but I don't wanna fall if it means I fall flat on my face. He is so sweet and caring, and he fits every role perfectly. He loves to cook and learn new things, especially trying new things to eat. He is amazing. It's almost scary tbh
That’s weird that he wants to be on the birth certificate of your daughter that’s he’s only known for 4 months? Tbh this all sounds really weird to me. Good for you for getting a new boyfriend, but don’t let him near her so much and just alone. You never know peoples full intentions with kids, especially if you known this man for 4 months. Do not be naive to what’s right in front of you.