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That’s a tricky one… I guess it would depend on a few factors for me. Am I close to this nanny more than employer/employee kind of relationship? Where are they kissing baby (face, mouth, toes, etc)? I think if I was closer to this person- which could potentially happen with a nanny. I was really close to one of my families years ago- and it was like a top of the head or something away from face/mouth, I might be ok with it. Someone I used to work with had breakfast with me recently. She has two boys of her own (not with us) and was holding mine at the table. She instinctively kissed the top of his head and immediately apologized in case I was weirded out. We aren’t super close but I knew there was no weird intent behind the action. Was it maybe a situation like that? I’d like to assume the best for your situation but ultimately if you’re even questioning if this is ok or not, you should probably have a conversation with the nanny asap.
Did you tell her how you feel about it and did you give her a set of rules or expectations when you hired her? Talking with her would be the first step. I think a simple conversation should remedy that, I'm sure she meant well by it; Most people give kisses as an act of love or affection. It's important to keep in mind that certain factors such as culture, age and education influence those behaviors a conversation, letting her know that it makes you uncomfortable maybe due to potential health reasons or whatever that reason may be, should put a period to it.
I feel like a little kiss on the temple or forehead could be okay, I kiss my nephew there all the time he’s just so chubby and kissable lol and I’d hope that the person caring for my child feels that way about my baby too but if it’s a kiss on the mouth that’s a major no no
Depending on her relationship with your child. She may just be coming from a genuine candid place. Maybe she's crossing a boundary or your just projecting. Either have a conversation with them.
I don’t even let family kiss my baby, the risk of RSV is too big. I want to keep my baby safe ❤️
I mean I’ve kissed the baby’s I’ve babies on the top of their head once I was very close to them because they felt like my own. Never on the lips or anywhere else.
Only you can say what you’re comfortable with. Don’t feel bad to say something in fear that you’ll hurt his/her feelings. This is YOUR baby, so YOU get say in kisses or no kisses. In the end I’m sure Nanny will understand if you decide to say something and if they don’t that’s too bad on their part. Your baby, your rules.
I wouldn’t mind a nanny being affectionate to my babies as long as the kisses are not in the face. But, this is your baby. If it makes you comfortable and want her to stop just be honest. You can tell her with everything that’s always going around you’re just not comfortable with people kissing the baby.
Just tell her you’re uncomfortable with it, with viruses and such going around you prefer she not give kisses. Every family is different so she might not know what your specific boundaries are. Our nanny kisses/hugs our boys but we are all very close so I don’t care. But the other family she works for doesn’t let anyone show their kid any affection unless they’re immediate family 🤷♀️
She would be fired so fast. Makes no sense. I was a nanny for some years and would never.