Sons horrid attitude after new baby(rant/advice request)
I'm getting very frustrated with my son. I had ny daughter on Halloween and my boy has been having major attitude problems ever since. He absolutely loves his new sister, gives her so many hugs and kisses, wants to cuddle and play with her. He's becoming an absolutely wonderful big brother. However his attitude with my husband and myself is horrid. Before he was amazing, I'd get complements on his behavior daily. But since my daughter has come home he'll yell at us when we redirect behavior, ignore us when we speak to him, purposely misbehave, overall an almost 180 turn. He's apparently great at preschool and his grandparents houses, it's just with us. I know he's going through a big change and needs time to adjust to not having 100% of the attention but... anyone have advice on how to help him?
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I completely agree with Kayla! He probably feels he isn’t getting the same attention as before which is typically true because of the huge change and sometimes we mothers don’t notice it as much with balancing our own hormones and still being a wife & mother. It’s going to be a process but you guys got this
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My biggest advice is to completely ignore the negative behavior. When he’s being nice and behaving, give extra praise. Make sure to put aside some time in the day when baby is napping or something for just you and him time. During those times make sure he knows you love him just as much and explain tiny babies can’t walk or talk so they need some more help from mommy and daddy for a little while and he can help her too! (My son felt involved and valued when he could help with some small things) We also got our son a gift from his baby sister for being a great big brother. It took my son a solid two/three weeks of giving me the cold shoulder before he finally came around. He would also act up until he realized I only acknowledged the “good” behavior and we would still have special time together. (He was 2 when she was born) Also if you haven’t already try asking him why he’s acting that way after everything calms down. Then you can reassure him if it is worries.