Is being a sahm a luxury

eh, depends on who you ask. . Although many will say that it is. . I guess I just don’t fully agree with that haha

Depends on why you stay home and if it was your choice or not. My mother stayed home because she couldn’t afford child care for 3 kids. She would have broken even between pay check and daycare costs so she stayed home. She would have really liked to work at least part time, have her own money and us be able to afford to do more things but instead we had to fully depend on my father and we did struggle financially. If your spouse makes enough for you to stay home, live comfortably and you want to stay home then that’s a privilege.

I guess but depends what you want from life. Even if I could afford it, I wouldn’t want to be a SAHM. I’m just not about that life 😂 think I’d go mad 😂

From a practicality stand point, not a luxury. It's how it's been done for nearly all of time, until recently. In the current economic structure, it has become either a luxury or something done out of necessity. I'm a SAHM, and have been for nearly 3 years now. I say that I'm very blessed to have this time with my children and fortunate that my husband makes great money and is happy to provide for us. Personally, I fully embrace the homemaker/motherly role and love every minute of it. That being said, it definitely isn't for everyone.

Thank you for your comments! I'm a sahm and although I love it, I do not see it as luxury.. some people think I've got it easy not having to go to work but I'm living off benefit money and just wouldn't be able to afford to live any other way!

To me it would be. I would love to be able to afford to not work and have that time to be with my kids. If I could be a SAHM now I’d take it in a heartbeat ❤️ We just simply cannot afford to get by in this city without both incomes, nor to save to escape it.

Having the CHOICE to be a sahm or not is the luxury I think. I have friends who work full time and would do anything to be a sahm, whereas I would love to work more than I do but can’t afford full time daycare costs x

Personally it’s a luxury if you can afford for it to be a luxury. Normally you CHOOSE to be a SAHM because you can’t afford childcare or because your other half has decent income enough for you to be a sahm. When my time comes I’d love a balance of a part time job, but we will see xx

I feel like if your a SAHM due to partner earning enough to support everyone and you’ve chosen not to work and your kids are at school/nursery it’s a luxury. But if your a SAHM cause it wasn’t feasible to go to work due to cost of childcare so you’ve given up your career then no. Looking after children is hard. I’m like a stay at home working mum my child never needed paid childcare as I could carry on my career as I went part time and worked nights it’s not easy (on mat leave again now) However Going to work was actually a bit of break especially when I get the occasional day shift and either my partner or family have my son 😂😂😂

If you have the CHOICE, I think it’s a luxury.

I would say it depends on who you ask some women would love nothing more while other women love the careers and want to carry on pursuing that. I will be a sahm because I have a disability that effects work but even if that wasn’t the case I think I’d want to be one for the first few years anyway so that I didn’t miss any major milestones. It’s not nice having to rely on benefits and if you’re feeling lonely or stuck in a rut I’d recommend baby groups or even classes in a hobby that you’d enjoy! ☺️

@Lara I think you've hit the nail on the head!! Its the fact of having the choice!!

As a person who worked full time remote and watched my children, it’s nice now not having to work and just focus on my kids and home life. I feel like I can think more than I did before. There is a lot of challenges with staying at home but it’s better than trying to juggle both work and home life all the time.

I’m a SAHM because we can’t afford childcare. I have no choice but to stay home with them. Childcare in my area cost twice as much as our mortgage and we don’t have the luxury of handing our kids off to family members since the closest one lives 5 hours away.

I think it honestly depends lol in my opinion though DONT DO IT!!😂 it literally strips you of your independence! It causes depression for lack of human contact and of course other reasons as well, being around kids 24/7 can become very exhausting… I would give anything to find a good paying job lol so I can get a break😮‍💨💯

I absolutely would not think it was luxury. I love my kids but couldn’t think of anything worse than being a SAHM. I like going to work and being me not mummy

I'm a SAHM and honestly it's a bit of both. Being able to financially manage on one income is a blessing not many in this world can have, and being able to raise my son myself is the best feeling. HOWEVER I haven't had a day to myself (or more than a few hours before I go to bed) in over a year, and honestly I'm only really just starting to regain my actual identity again🥲

To me it’s a luxury and a privilege. I never thought it’s something I’d be able to do with cost of living etc, and I only want the one child, so it’s not something I’ll ever get to do again either. We worked hard before she came to make it work and I spent my initial mat leave re-negotiating all our bills etc and finding cheaper options. I’m still enjoying it and she’s 18m. Don’t see me going back to work before she’s 3. Only thing is I would love to be able to afford to send her to nursery one or two mornings a week as I think she would thrive and love it. But she’ll get free hours at 3 without me needing to work which will make it more affordable.

Id say it’s a luxury to to be able to have one parent not working (even though I know people make sacrifices to afford it) but it’s also certainly not a luxurious way to spend your days, its too much work for that

I think it depends on who u are & ur own perspective on life & motherhood. It depends on the woman, life goals & wat they want for their family! For example, Some ppl would go crazy being a SAHM even if they could afford to stay home so I agree with @Scarlett and then some ppl can’t afford child care like @Dana 🦅♥️🤍💙 mom. Bt like @Brittany said it’s abt having the CHOICE that makes it the luxury. Personally, for me being a SAHM was the only way I was gonna parent if I ever became a mom. I would not be a mom if I had to be a working mom. Regardless of our finances, some families really value 1 parent staying home to raise the kids which is (usually the mom) even if it means not getting the benefits of having 2 incomes. So the choice to become a SAHM for me is based on our values as a married couple rather than the money! Child care is a hard job especially if ur doing it full time as most stay at home moms. So the “luxury” Is that I GET TO CHOOSE to live the life that I want :)

Yes & no

I don't think it's a luxury in the sense it's easy but a luxury in the sense we wouldn't be able to pay the bills on my husbands salary alone. I earn the most and work long shifts so only paying for 3 days childcare instead of 5. I couldn't imagine paying 5 days nursery twice over. Whereas my mother in law 30 years ago took 5 years off work with my husband and father in law worked. But I also see it from the other side where people can't afford to go to work as childcare would be more than they earn but that's why the new childcare help in the UK is good.

Any option is a luxury if it’s a choice

Yes and no. Some people are forced to stay home because they can't afford daycare, and some people choose to stay home because their partner makes enough and I think the latter is the luxury

When I lived in London I definitely saw it as a luxury. Although I’m a sahm now living further out in technically a carer for my asd son. That definitely is not a luxury. I’m currently driving over 100 miles per day to take him to his sen school.

It’s an incredibly difficult job but would still be considered a luxury for me. We couldn’t live on just his income so I have to work, but if I had the option to stay home then I wouldn’t even hesitate. Being a SAHM may be one of the hardest jobs in the world but it also has the highest reward imo.

It can be both. For me i dont see it as a luxury because I enjoy working and will fall into a depression if i was home all day. Childcare isn’t an issue for us because i work at a daycare so free childcare. I personally like to stay busy and make my own money

Choice is a luxury but the reality of being a SAHM regardless of that choice is not necessarily a luxury lifestyle. I am a SAHM due to lack of childcare availablity in my area, however my husbands earnings mean we can afford to live but this is not a luxury lifestyle. There's a difference between affording (making it work, budgeting etc) and having remaining cash every month for extras (savings, holidays, days out etc) making it a more luxurious lifestyle. There are days I am grateful and so glad I am able to be a SAHM and there are others where I wish I'd gone back to work and continued my career which I am not sure when will happen as my first is about to start nursery, I'm due my 2nd within a month so literally back to square one. We've had to really tighten our budget for our first to do a few hours at nursery and this is mainly for her benefit of socialising and learning and so she has some routine after baby 2 arrives but we are down the wire each month. It's hard and stressful!

It’s a luxury because you don’t need to earn income. However I find being home with little kids is a lot harder (mentally, emotionally, and physically) than working.

it depends on the situation, like stay at home mom vs kept wife/kept mom. some stay home because daycare is too expensive, but still struggling a bit financially. the other stays home because they could/chose to and are financially comfortable enough to