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Yes I feel this way every pregnancy my poor husband. It's like I want to but I don't feel attractive and I get nervous. I had an early miscarriage before my first and idk the anxiety is real
I’m 26 weeks and haven’t truly wanted to have sex since my first trimester. I just don’t get turned on or in the mood at all ever since I hit my second trimester. I want to but as soon as it happens I just don’t want to anymore. We tried a few times but it just feels uncomfortable and awkward and blah for forever reason. And it’s not my husband I think it’s actually me lol
No drive all pregnancy I feel like it’s either way more or none for pregnant people and unfortunately for my husband mines none lol
Haven’t had sex since maybe 16 weeks. Belly gets in the way, which is the only reason we stopped.
Yup. My body just won't cooperate. At first it was off and on depending on how sick I felt in first trimester, then it wasn't bad and I could enjoy it a few times, but I'm about 5 months now and I just can't relax or get wet and I'm having discharge that ends up making me uncomfortable so I don't want to be touched until I am fresh fresh clean down there. I'll give hubby oral, but he ends up feeling bad that I don't want to be taken care of too. But I don't wanna so I'm all good. Get me a snack after instead!
@Elina yes! The hormones just suck right now!
I have a sex drive for a minute but then it disappears, I think from feeling insecure with how I look with my growing belly and just being anxious
Im experiencing dryness down there and im not used to using lube or anything even after using a toy im dry so my body wants no part of sex right now
@Noelle yesssss in the beginning i had a high sex drive now it’s empty
@Chelsea yessssss or i’ll feel turned on for like 5 seconds then goes away, omg i’m so sorry to hear that mama❤️🙏🏽
@Elina no seriously i deftly feel you, i get turned on for like 5 seconds then its goes away. Deftly very uncomfortable it’s like the second trimester took every sexual enjoyment away😭
@Courtney lol it’s so krazy, i deftly feel bad for the men
@Lydia did you have any discomfort?
@Harmony no not really. Just was too big to use our usual positions and both of us are not tall and couldn’t figure out the other positions so we ran out of options 😂
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@Liberty deftly feel you with the discharge i always feel like i smell or icky. I can take 3 showers and still feel nasty. Did the baby moving make you feel any type of way during sex?
@Lindsey yessss i feel the same, i don’t feel sexy at all especially if im laying down its so hard to breathe😭
@Noelle your in your second trimester as well?
@Harmony not feeling much yet, she's mostly active in the evening. When I was able to have sex it was before feeling movement aside from little weird feeling so coukd ignore but he couldn't notice. I've heard that the movement during it can soothe the baby though so they might not move much and be calm. I'm nervous if my libido comes back later and baby is moving much more! There's positions you can try to keep tummy out of the way and hands off it.
@Lydia 😂😂 i definitely feel you! the best ones you can’t do anymore and the other ones aren’t it 😭
@Noelle same, I'm so dry and can't relax down there even with lube and toys but at the same time a lot of discharge but it's jsut weirdly sticky and makes me feel unclean.
@Liberty awwwww, i heard that too but i don’t know why but i just feel weird having sex and my son keeps moving around it’s like i want to but get turned off so quick especially knowing he’s bigger now and my stomach is huge i feel and feel like i look like a hippo and if i do any other position than doggy style that i look huge and unattractive 😭💔
@Harmony girl, we are creating life, we are mother nature herself. You're beautiful and amazing and you're power right now. Baby can't tell what you're doing, and apparently orgasm and sex can help your body prepare for labor so if you are lucky to have the desire to do it, try to find ways to enjoy it. Doggy style is great anyway. It's something about the contractions of your uterus during orgasm basically being like the Braxton Hicks contractions, letting your body practice. If you got the libido, you got the right to enjoy it if you can. If that libido is down then you just need to rest and relax when you can. There's other ways of intamacy with your man, to just enjoy being present together. We just cuddle in the couch and play video games together right now mostly.
@Liberty aww thank you!! your beautiful as well!!❤️ your right ! yesss i just think my libido is just down it’s been down for month i just feel bad for my man but at the same time dont lol. Cuddling is the best intimacy right now
Me 😭 my drive is 0!! Any increase in sensation down there causing tightness in my stomach and is really uncomfortable feeling, baby starts moving, and then I’m just done. 😥
@Harmony he'll be fine, focus on what love you can show eachother otherwise for now, and after baby just gotta get creative finding that time for eachother again when you can.
I guess I'm the opposite. My sex drive is not super high, but I am more in the mood than I'm not. Maybe it's because my bd be at work for 2 weeks and come home for a week, so I have enough time to build up that sex drive, or maybe I just have a high sex drive period
@Noelle im sure youve heard all about it, but okra water really helps with dryness, ESPECIALLY during pregnancy. I even recommend drinking it starting your 2nd tri up until birth for lubrication down there. I feel you on not really being in the mood though... my partner and I went from daily hunching to MAYBE once a week... i feel a little guilty honestly
Honestly im just glad im not the only one experiencing this. Like i want to have sex but i just feel so unsexy. Ive never been this size before, and i feel my baby moving around so much. Its such a strange sensation and removes any sex drive that i have...
I have the hormones and want to have sex sometimes but NEVER the energy or want to actually go through with it 😭 it just feels more and more uncomfortable lately and restricted to only a couple positions plus 2 weeks ago I had a huge scare where I was bleeding after sex and now I’m too traumatized to do if again 😭
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I feel you on that. My husband thinks I don’t like him anymore, it was months before I gave in and it was a lot of uncomfortable and pressure, I’m 6 months along and my goodness I have NO drive at all for it
Definitely not alone. I think my boyfriend is becoming more insecure then me when it comes to sex RN. He thinks I dont desire or is attracted to him.and here I am just not interested. I tried it twice in my earlier months and it wasn't what everyone hyped it to be. Now that im up on months im sore down there so it's out the question anyway. I also don't like to be cuddled or touched. He's nothing to do with him personally.
I'm in the group that has a way higher sex drive during pregnancy 🫣 but I haven't been feeling it the last couple of weeks. My hips are sore and the last time I couldn't even orgasm which is unusual for me during pregnancy. Last pregnancy I had sex up until about 3 weeks before giving birth. Its just about trying different positions really. The positions we like are not hindered by the belly luckily
Yuppp and no libido tbh