I need some clarification and advice…

My husband and I were recently talking about faults and how we all fall into the same ones over and over again. Like how we go to confession with the same things. It was a light conversation. Then he mentioned something about my temper, to which I laughed and admitted “Yeah, Fr X is always trying to give me new tips every week!” I asked what his *main* sin was, since I genuinely couldn’t think of one… He tried deflecting etc but ultimately admitted it was lust. He doesn’t look at porn and he hasn’t cheated, and before I could get him to articulate more, our toddler came in. Basically I want to know if it’s normal that I feel kind of betrayed? We had a baby 4m ago and I know I’m probably insecure physically bc of the baby weight… But I *did* think it was strange that he hasn’t really ate many advances toward me sexually. We’ve had great dates and still seem really in love from my perspective…Now I’m worried. Is this normal for men? Like what does lust even look like for a married man in love? Is it cheating? Like, share all your thoughts and be brutally honest bc I’m spiraling and conflicted here!

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I say just ask him to elaborate instead of you making stories in your head. Looks like you guys are good in communicating with each other so I'm pretty sure he will not be hesitant to share it as well. ☺️

@Len So, I asked him and really tried to guard my emotions and not project… He says it’s mostly like he sees a pretty woman, and then sometimes has to “swat away” sexual thoughts about her. He says he knows it’s not good and he wants to be the best husband for me… but also reassures me that several of his friends struggle with it too… Am I fair for feeling a little hurt by it? I *know* it’s such a normal thing for guys to struggle with, but when it’s my husband all of a sudden it’s personal 😆 😅

I think it's normal to feel hurt about it and I hope you also communicated how you feel to him. Not to make him feel more guilty but just to be transparent. The fact that he is sharing this to you means you can feel secure with your marriage. All of us has our own struggles as we are all a work in progress. I think what you can do for him is to pray for him to overcome this struggle. ☺️

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