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Before having my girl, we moved at 35 weeks pregnant and so only setup a few things in those last few weeks like the next 2 me. We didn’t have a cot or nursery done. We knew we were going to Australia where our family are when she was 4-6.5 months and so didn’t buy too much especially as a lot of baby things are up to 6 months so just did without if not essential. I was surprised how little we needed. Then when we got back to the UK we got her cot and she was around 7 months when she went into it (we were using a travel cot as interim). Her room is pretty much always pitch black as have black out blinds and she she only uses it for sleep so even if I had done a nursery it wouldn’t be really be seen/appreciated. From 7+ months I worked on creating her a nice play space in our reception room. You have time to slowly work on things. Yes it’s hard at times juggling a baby and trying to do projects but that’s just the new norm and you will make it work and you aren’t missing out.
It’ll all happen in your own time! We have no.2 on the way and while we have the 2 bedrooms now, it’s not overly big and going to be a squeeze for a toddler + baby and us and haven’t been able to give this baby any specific setup and still need to get a bassinet again as we sold ours due to space after our girl no longer needed. Yes there’s part of me that would like to own our place and of created that sweet picture perfect nursery but I know it doesn’t really matter and wouldn’t actually of made any difference outside of being aesthetically nice. My girl has everything she could need - mainly us! And as for nesting, honestly cleaning a cupboard whether for baby specifically or not will make you feel more organised and still get you in that zone. You could also use some stickable/reusable wall decals to maybe give a corner of your studio baby vibes. Hope that helps to reassure!
Agree with all the comments above, although we live in a 2 bed house my partner works from home full time so we used the 2nd bedroom as an office and storage for the first 6 months so he had a private space to work. He was in our room for all that time and doesn’t need a nursery. After 6 months he did move into his own room, but didn’t decorate it till the following Xmas break when he was 14 months old. We were hoping to move when he was 12 months so didn’t see the point, but we decided to stay. Now due 2nd baby, and although I’ll use some space in his room for storage deffo won’t set up cot until actually needed.
I am in the same situation. We are hoping to move a house end of January, 2-3 before the baby is due. I only have a few things we got from our friends but they are mostly for bigger children. No pram no car seat, etc. I am getting a bit nervous about it but in the end, buying stuff doesn't actually take that long. Create yourself a list of things you need, put them on your amazon list and when you feel you have a bit more organised space you can just click buy. That's what I am doing. Like other girls said, you only need so much at the beginning 😊 Good luck girl xx
Thank you so much for taking the time to share your experiences and reassurances, I really appreciate it and found a lot of comfort in this ❤️
You absolutely have not failed your baby. I don’t think social media helps with perpetuating the idea of perfect nurseries and everything setup. It’s far from reality as while these nursery setups are lovely, baby needs to sleep next to you for the first 6 months. Most babies aren’t on the move to 6+ months. Babies actually need so little - a safe sleep space, baby carrier/pram/car seat and a playmat. Obviously nappies etc. They don’t need lots of toys and things. You don’t need a change table etc. Mat on the bed is fine. You have so much time to build on this after baby is here and actually you’ll probably end up buying these you use because before baby is here you won’t know what is working or not. Nesting is more than just creating an insta worthy nursery, it’s cleaning and making your current space work for you & baby and creating an environment you feel comfortable in.