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He’s horrible and shameless. It’ll only get worse.
This is awful I’m sorry 😞
He is very rude and definitely in the wrong, but also try not let it get to you too much as you are also hormonal and stressed ☹️ if he carries on then to the kerb he goes!! His priorities are all wrong by the sounds of it
And I’ve personally never heard of anyone divorcing for that reason. Your spouse should love you as you are, especially after birthing his children.
That's a big fat hell no from me. 🚩🚩 Such disrespect.
This is so mean. At this point in pregnancy you’re constantly hungry! I was eating all day long and I’m now 30 weeks and I’m surprised I haven’t gained more weight. It’s one thing to make one comment if he doesn’t understand but once you explain to him that this is a normal part of pregnancy he needs to be quiet. Plus everything he’s said sounds more mean than out of concern. He sounds really selfish, sorry :(
My partner also told me he likes slim, but now when I am pregnant he encourages me to eat, and I put on already a lot
Red Flag🚩🚩🚩 Your pregnancy and postpartum experiences will suffer because of his attitude. I'm so sorry.
His love for you is conditional. I would not want this from my partner, with whom I plan to spend the rest of my life. This would make me think twice about being with him. Especially the fact that he does not understand that your body will change during pregnancy and after giving birth.
If y’all are not married, think twice about that and he’s showing you who he is now, proceed with caution with your entire pregnancy journey.
How immature. It’s been hard enough for me to embrace the changes my body has gone through even with an incredibly supportive partner so my heart goes out to you. He sounds like he has a lot of growing up to do before baby gets here. I would address this with him in a very serious manner and consider your options before you are postpartum and dealing with this attitude on top of everything else.
If I can add my two pence… Firstly, he’s absolutely wrong and I’d be fuming! Is it possible he himself has a difficult relationship with food and that comes across to you? I ask because I’m quite lucky I can eat what I like and don’t tend to change weight but my other half will decide on doing mental diets and trying to exercise and tries to force it on me. He’d randomly say things like “you should go for a run”. And if I’m eating something sweet in the evening he will always comment about how unhealthy it is or something else. But I’ve come to understand it’s from his own issues. That being said, we had a few heated conversations in pregnancy and also from breastfeeding (intense hunger with that too!) where I’ve put him in his place commenting about my appearance or what I’m eating when I’m literally sustaining another life.
What an absolute jerk !
It’s probably also worth saying now, that if you’re like most of us, you will probably dislike your body postpartum for a while, and what you need is for him to listen and comfort you. Not bring you “solutions” and comment on anything you’re eating or what exercise you’re doing. He will absolutely need to support you and protect you PP, especially whilst your hormones are all over the place!
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I’d be leaving him now tbh. Don’t stay in that toxic environment you’re worth more. And if he’s talking to you like this, is he going to treat you like this in front of your child?
This ain’t right at all. You need a proper chat with him. It’s going to destroy you mentally and you don’t need that especially in your condition.
I’d leave asap. I was a size 00 when I first got pregnant. I didn’t eat ridiculously bad and I gained 60lbs. That weight didn’t come off once I gave birth. I didn’t work out how I should have but still. Every kid, weight went up more. You don’t know how your body will handle pregnancy, and he wouldn’t have cared that much if it was really love.
Let me guess - he’s perfectly fit and goes to the gym 5 days a week. Oh wait….
When you’re pregnant, you can eat whatever the fuck you want. You’re also allowed to do ONE murder. Not a well known fact, but it is true. So, feel free to remind him of that.
Wtf !!
I’m not usually quick to tell people to leave their relationships over things that I think can be worked on, but he sounds like he values you more physically and sexually than he does as a person. If you’re in love with someone, their body type can change and you still want to be with them because they’re your person. Especially if their body changed to bring your child into this world! He should love you and respect your physical sacrifice even more. Sorry but I’d give him one last chance to see that he fucked up and make things right, but if he keeps saying bullshit I’d tell him it’s over.
Disgusting!!!! Out of curiosity, how long have you been together?
You need to sit down with him and have a realistic conversation. My husband also isn't attracted to overweight women. But we had an agreement he cannot comment on my body while pregnant and for 2 years post partum. He did comply with it.
@Sharon 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You said it, he thinks your worth is determined by your weight. This is not normal of him. You deserve happiness always and he is just tone deaf and out of line. If you guys are about to have a baby and his biggest concern is your weight, he is going to have a serious wake up call. but in reality he probably won’t change this toxic line of thinking. Take your time to think of the role model you would want your child to look up to 🫂
Sounds exactly like my ex lol. Told me I’d be unattractive and not allowed to gain weight after giving birth and I wasn’t allowed to be fat either. It’s ridiculous. He ended up cheating 2 weeks after birth anyway so clearly wasn’t lying. Honestly ignore him, he’s being disgusting and if he’s more focused on weight than his newborn child, he needs to grow up and sort out his priorities. He should be excited about his child not how much weight you have after growing a whole human
how are you supposed to be pregnant and not gain weight? and in the 2nd/3rd trimester you’re literally eating for 2, you don’t really have a choice but to gain weight to keep your baby healthy. would he rather you and his baby were unhealthy than healthy?! you’re bound to gain weight in pregnancy it’s part of the package, is he stupid? how can you carry a whole other human being in your body & just stay the same weight. he sounds not only awful but so thick
I hope he's one of those unfortunate men that put on pregnancy weight to, moobs an all!
Think of it this way… if you had a daughter and her boyfriend said these type of things to her what advice would you give? X