Second Born
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@Steph I feel exactly the same! My mum does as much as she can, she invited us for dinner on her break from work and said she felt guilty for not seeing the girls as much but with her working so much when she gets a minute now she wants to just sit down but has made plans to have them a few hours on Friday. However his family used to message me constantly asking about my first and if she could go with them for day/ stay night etc and now absolutely nothing unless we make plans and ask them. I feel so bad that my first went from being number one with people practically fighting over her to them barely taking notice and then my second is just totally overlooked! I feel guilty for them that they now miss out because people aren’t arsed
Its so sad when my 2 yr old asks for grandmom constantly n he cant see her. To be fair my FIL had a heart attack 3 weeks before second was born and was in the hosp june to nov then in a rehab u til they brought him home dec and require 24 hr care but MIL n SIL refuses to get anyone to help/give a break so its all consuming and they literally cant think or talk about nething else. Not even cooking meals for themselves. I have been cooking and dropping off for them. FIL was back in hosp for a month over christmas so MIL and SIL could have seen the boys for christmas but instead went to the hosp dawn to post dark. Didnt even call or facetime and we live right down the road. Maybe im being selfish. I get that what is going on is hard and its terrible and i also think instead of saying how horrible everything is u cud focus on the good and happy in your life like ur two grandsons
@Steph I totally understand that, they could’ve taken the boys to see their grandad to give a little bit of positivity and light. Or even asked you to take them over Christmas or to the hospital. They could surely work something out. End of the day they will miss their big milestones and they’ll only have themselves to blame. I’ve stopped sending that side videos and pictures purposely to see how long it takes them to get in contact with us about them
Exactly! And Saturday is my older son’s 2nd bday. Were just having godparents over and my husband let them know but I doubt they will rotate and stop by to even say hi. So sad. I have stopped sending pics/videos too but my husband will still send them
Yep nobody checks on us with #2 except my husband's parents
@Steffani so sorry lovely. It’s awful, you feel so guilty for your kids
@Steph we’ve done the same. Just stopped sharing things with them
Yes 100%. My mom is still amazing and super helpful as much as she can be. But yes super sad and frustrating. Like everyone is in their own world