Last names

I’d do both

Yeah no I’d do my name yall aren’t together so why give the baby his last name? He surely didn’t earn it.

Now you’ve separated do you think he’s going to be an active parent?

If he’s going to be a consistent part of baby’s life and isn’t a danger to baby, then I’d say his name so both have the same surname. If at a later date he proves to be an unfit father, you can always change their surnames via deed-poll (UK) - this is what I did with my two eldest as he hasn’t seen them since the youngest was 9 months old - his choice - and they’re 18 & 20 now. So on all legal documents they have my surname now, but in certain situations still have to declare previous surnames. Or, you could double barrel both surnames and change your daughters to both too xxx

I don’t think he’s going to change at all he packed all his stuff and left without saying bye or anything he didn’t even say bye to our daughter and she asks where he is all the time… he’s messaged to ask how she is about 3-4 times and he left over 2 weeks ago, I’m 26 weeks pregnant and he never even came with me to any appointments for this baby he never even asked how they went he’s just really not interested he tries to tell me he is but he’s just not and it shows, he also moved over 2 hours away and left his job so he has no way of coming up to see his kids.. I never wanted to have kids with 2 different surnames so I’m honestly thinking about changing my firsts last name to mine and using mine for this baby as he just doesn’t deserve them ..

Change your firsts name and second takes yours too…He does not deserve the privilege

I would change your daughter’s name to yours and have new baby take your last name. No need to keep his name around. Yeah it might be a hassle to change hers but at the end of the day, you’re the one raising them.

tbh if both kids have the same dad it will cause friction with the children as they get older and a mountain of questions. Go for double barrel

Yours! He sounds like a shitty hands-off dad. He doesn’t deserve to have another child named after him. I’m sorry this happened to you, you deserve better.

I’d give the new baby your last name and change your daughters name

If he's going to be a problem parent it'll be easier for paperwork etc for baby to have your name

Change both their names to yours

Yea I would change both his history isn't looking great with you or his kids

Have both the same

Hyphenate it, my parents were together but not married and they hyphenated my last names. My 2 kids have different dads and different last names. My oldest has my last name and I gave my youngest her dad’s last name since we’re together still. I was already broken up with my oldests father before I had her

He’s name purely because your older one has his … but if you choose to go with your own I’d see nothing wrong with that either x

His name so it matches your other child

Me and my boyfriend been together for 5 years, and he doesn’t seem interested in marriage I’m crazy not stupid and I know if we ever broke up I’d hate having children with different last names, anyway with that said i hyphenated, I put mine first and then his and always thought about dropping his if it didn’t work out. And in school they’ll most likely just use mine since it’ll be to long to put on the bubble sheets and stuff

Id do your name and change your daughter's name to yours too lol. My cousin reverted to her maiden name and both her sons took her maiden name instead of their dads last name too. We celebrated when the paperwork went thru.