A weird comment

Not wrong to be upset by that… It’s very rare for a mum to not need other things in life, you are still a person and still need your needs and desires filled too! It’s completely normal and it does not make you “unnatural”. I don’t really get what he means by that either I’m sure you’re an amazing mum x

That's such a weird thing to say. What even is a "natural mum" ur a human being outside of being a mum, being a mum isn't ur identity it's just one of the many things that make u who u r. I'm sorry they said that regardless of there intentions behind it still a very thoughtless thing to say. Only thing that matters is being a good mum, and good mums r there own people to xx

@Willow I think he meant that some people are 'born to be mothers' and find everything easy and rewarding. I'm not sure those people exist myself.

@Chloe yeah I don't get it either. He made the comment like a week ago and I've been obsessing about it in my head. I think it's because his mother was seemingly like that. Although I'm sure she had wants and dreams but just put them to the wayside

Yeah those people don't exist. Human beings, mums or not, are multi faceted beings with various different roles and things that bring them joy. Be a model to your kids, not a martyr. Don't show them it's OK to give up on your other joys in life for the sake of anyone else. It would only breed resentment. It's a very sexist comment he has made whether intentional or not. Would he say the same to a dad who wants to still keep up his own things he enjoys? Would he say the same to himself?

This just makes me roll my eyes... I totally agree with Karen. I'm sure he didn't mean to hurt you and it's probably more a reflection on society's expectations on mothers but it's so backwards and really misogynistic when you think about it. I had PPD with my first baby and partly I think it's bollocks like this that makes us feel we need to be something that's actually unnatural and so bad for our mental health losing all the rest of our lives.

All mums need a break and deserve to have hobbies. I’m a stay at home mum, I love my kids, love being with them but still enjoy me time to be an adult. What a weird thing for him to say, has he forsaken all the things he enjoys as a person in favour of being a dad?