Is this rude.

I voted no. It sounds like this is your plan As long as they are not a party of the party: you pay for them and they aren’t eating the provided food.

Is the place reserved only for the party? In that case yes. But if it's open to anyone and you are paying for the other kids not rude. Moreover I would tell the mom of the birthday kid in advance. Not asking, but just informing them that you'll bring the other kids but you will pay for them and they will not join the party

I accidentally voted yes. I think it’s fine.

I’ve personally done it but just let them know and paid individually. I’ve also had people do it when I’ve had a party. The only issue would be if there is a minimum number or if they’d hired the venue.

Just talk to the host before the event. They will understand once you bring it up. I would feel uncomfortable if I was the just put in the situation and confused.

As long as you’re supervising them and not inviting them to join the party then it’s fine and not rude I’d say :)

@Brittany you wouldn’t let your children go to a friends birthday party if all your children weren’t invited? All kids have different friends and they’ll each be invited to their age groups birthday parties! X

I accidentally pressed yes, I meant no it’s not rude.

It’s open facility to anyone so no they didn’t rent it out, this is a party for 4 year old my older kids are 8 and 16, they don’t want to participate and will have their own food not at the party with the 4 year olds

@Allexys I think that’s totally fine and not rude at all!

@Brittany was that her response? Seems off putting, like passive aggressive. Which would make sense why you asking now. If your not bothered then bring them, but personally I wouldn’t want to go if that was her response.

I indirectly asked if it was okay by mentioning them and including they wouldn’t be participating, she didn’t seem annoyed at all.

As long as your other kids don’t use any of the party’s “resources” and the place is open to the public, I don’t see why not

I think it depends on everyone’s age and what type of supervision is needed. Assuming bringing older kids doesn’t mean an unsupervised invited toddler in the party space, sure. I feel rude because I wouldn’t think it’s necessary to give the host a heads up ahead of time and think just letting them know upon arrival that older kids won’t be attending/interfering with the party. Ideally two parents would be attending one to go to the party and one to supervise older kids

Very normal, just obviously you pay for the extra kids and really really don’t let them into the party area.

As an Early Educator I try to ask parents if siblings can go bc it really is sweet. If it's a people limit, totally understandable. Otherwise the siblings should be able to go too ❤️

@Brittany unfortunately this doesn’t always work. Children get invited to parties a lot of the time based on it being from someone in their class at school. Meaning they don’t necessarily even know your child has a sibling to invite. A lot of activities can be based on the child’s age and may not even fit your other child’s age group (because for example it could literally be for a class of 4 year olds and if you had an older child the party may not be based for their age) this isn’t a family event she’s talking about where you invite everybody and of all ages. Unfortunately I see that wouldn’t work for you in your previous comments. But it’s not down to that parent to include all of your children in every scenario. People have different friends 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’ve done that before, my husband goes with my other kids to play (we pay for our kids and their food. The child that was invited to the party is in the party room celebrating. When we throw birthday parties we plan for extras, and always let them know siblings are welcome.

@Lauren you usually have to pay per child though and it gets super expensive if you include all siblings xx

I think Brittany blocked me because all her messages disappeared 🤣🤣

Unless they've done a private hire then no I think it's a fine thing to do