Husband wants another kid but I’m not sure if I do
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It’s your body your choice I personally will never have another kid as much as I loved being pregnant the trauma I had with birth and the post partum and the way it ruined my body etc etc I will never have another kid no matter what my partner says because I mentally feel like I can’t You do what you feel is right and if you do want a child but not the pregnancy there are people that can carry a baby for you I know a few friends that like doing that cause they like being pregnant and you could foster a kid and eventually adopt
I think your hesitations are valid! Just know that the way you care for your child does change through out the years and they are definitely much more needy at 5 months than they will be later on. It is your body and ultimately your choice if you carry another child, but I think his feelings of being sad if he thought he was going to have more children and now will only have one, is also valid and he’s allowed to feel that way too.
I applaud you for not wanting to have another kid with a man who doesn't pull his weight, as so many women would just do it anyway, and then moan about him later! Don't be forced into it, you do not have to have another if you don't want to!
My husband always considered having 5 kids, and we now have one. Since then I've always said, if he can carry it and birth it, I'll pass him my uterus. 😂 My husband is very involved but even after all the trauma with birth, and post partum (still going through it) I've decided no. He's been very involved and even then I don't want to go through that ever again. So, you are completely in the right if he's not that involved with the child. It is tough already as it is, nevermind with somebody who is not involved.
5 months pp is way too early to decide! I’d give it a year or two and then talk about it. Definitely tell your husband what you’ve said here though, he needs to realize what you’re going through and how much he’s letting you down and directly influencing your current feelings about it before he starts sulking. I didn’t think I’d be able to have another at 5 months pp either but after 1 million conversations and a couple years of my partner stepping up I feel more confident that we can have a second and it won’t be as bad
I say go with your gut and don’t have another kid unless YOU want to—and you’re ok with raising kids alone if the relationship goes sour or something else happens to where you become a single parent. Let’s face it, women are the primary caretakers of children regardless of their economic or relationship status. So you have to think worst case scenario when making these decisions. Most men run their mouths about wanting kids, but barely parent when the time comes. They like the aesthetics and bragging rights of having kids, but don’t wanna put in the work to help raise them. If I’m carrying most of the load when it comes to carrying/birthing/parenting, then one kid is enough for me.
Sounds like he wants to try again for a son. Misogynistic
@Jaylin BOOM! Totally overlooked that, especially since they have a daughter.
@Jaylin he doesn’t care if it’s a daughter or son.
@Samira nothing wrong with wanting a son if you already have a daughter vise versa
Wait. It’s not even medically recommended to get pregnant within the first year of postpartum. Your body isn’t healed. Your hormones are still all over the place and if your partner isn’t listening to your VALID hesitations and fears then that means you guys have work to do before adding another child to the mix. Wait and don’t rush into it. Good luck to you!! 🩷