I think my marriage is ending…

So I’m reading earlier that people are intimate once a week or more, we barely are affectionate, he barely kisses me, no hugs, no wanting me at all. We have one child together. I don’t help the matter, when we do, I feel so creeped out and don’t want him touching me, it almost disgusts me, he’s done absolutely nothing wrong tbh just don’t seem to match any more. Not sure what to do. We used to be in the once or twice a week now it’s barely ever.
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I experienced this with my ex, I thought at the time that it was my hormones being all over the place post-partum and from breastfeeding. Exactly what you said, creeped out and feeling disgusted by him. Things worsened between us and he became physically abusive, he moved out, and it was only once he was gone that with help I realised that he’d been abusing and gaslighting me in many ways the whole time - I just hadn’t realised it, as I thought so much I was feeling was down to being a new parent, and adjusting to that. It might not be that for you, but your story sounds so similar to mine that I would really encourage you to look closely at your relationship and at how you feel about yourself when you’re with your husband. Counselling isn’t recommended when there’s domestic abuse present, but when it’s not that can be really helpful for a lot of couples. I’m really sorry you’re going through this 💔

Awes... I also fight with my partner but I mostly snuggle him..I like the chest. But wit sex sometimes I don't even remember doing it because I block it out

I’m in the same boat honestly, when we were first together it was like 4-6 times a weeks now it’s like once every 2-3 weeks. I’m just disgusted by him because of the way he treated me during my pregnancies, With our first her was so attentive and so helpful and caring, But with our second he really made me feel so lost and broken and alone. Then after she’s born last month he got a new job out of state so now I’m raising our 2 daughters and his son from his previous relationship all by myself. Mind you I have a c-section and I’m still healing from that. While I was pregnant and uncomfortable with myself and my body he expected it so much and would always say that that’s why I always got cheated on in my past relationships because I don’t give it up and then he just stopped wanting to do it and then started going out more with his brother and doing things that could be considered cheating tendencies, So I’m just not interested in him like before, I just do it to keep him content now.

So I don't know if your concerns are echoed in these comments. My husband had a lot of stress from various causes which impacted his ability to become intimate. It's normal in relationships to have those dry patches and even more so after a baby comes into the picture. I wanted intimacy and he didn't so I backed off for a very long time with initiating it. He shared with me that he has become very self conscious of his body and feels embarrassed that he wasn't in the mood all of those times. Once we had that conversation about things bothering him, it opened up our intimacy. I also shared with him how I felt also creeped out by his touch and thank god we are way past that now. It doesn't mean your relationship is over until it's really over. Talk to one another and try to understand one another without accusations or blame. Say that you two are a team and are supposed to love on each other too. It will get better!

I experienced that with my first love and it was honestly cause of all the bs he put me through so it got to the point where I just didn’t want to have sex with him. And some people naturally do grow apart. I know with marriage you can’t just walk away. I learned from other married couples (not me) that being married is not easy because through out life you change as a person and you have to make the decision to stay together and constantly choose each other. Maybe couples therapy could help if not I’d say do other intimate things like movie nights/date nights that require you to hone in on each other to rekindle that flame.

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