In laws calling baby theirs
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Probably comes down to if you like your in-laws or not 🤣🤣 i like mine so doesn't bother me at all.
No not at all! I think it’s just endearment x
At first I thought why they say that. But I notice I use to say that about my niece. Lol..i think is a sign of affection and love since that’s how I felt when I said it to my niece lol
No, its endearing!
I think if it makes you uncomfortable then talk to them about it
I think it depends how they are. If they’re entitled and overbearing it would drive me nuts, but if they’re quite reasonable and helpful and just excited I’d see it as sweet.
No. The more love she gets the merrier. I’m glad they see her as their own so they’ll do anything for her
My MIL refers to my son as her son, I find that a little weird. Our boy, our little man, that's quite cute though
To them he is our boy because although he’s your son he’s their grandson. Especially when talking to you about him. It’s lovely they say that. My parents say it all the time about my kids I love it. Makes me smile every time because I know it’s not just me and my husband who would do anything for them. A child can never have too many people who love them x
Yes but also when my parents do it. I get it I do but that’s our baby they be been there done that it’s our turn
@Abbi I’ve had this happen. It makes me 🤢
If they use “OUR little boy” or “OUR little man”, then I find no issue, as we all love him and he is all ours . It’s when they use mine or my baby. Or refer to his as their son that gives me the ick. My in laws are quite good and don’t use mine or my. Xx
Does it bother you if your parents say it, or just your in-laws?
No, my parents and in laws do this. They love my kids and are wonderful grandparents. They know my kids aren’t actually theirs lol.
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@Alicia To be fair, my parents don’t do this, they always refer to him by his name, which I prefer 🥰 I feel it’s more respectful. I mean it doesn’t bother me to the point of saying something to them, just a little annoying and possessive, especially when, (as someone else on this thread has said), they refer to him as “my boy” also
I’m surprised at how close the vote is though. Would’ve anticipated a lot less yes responses than 40%
Yes it really bothers me a lot especially given the fact that the in laws never even sent a congratulations card or any gift and the baby is 3 months old now. It’s MY baby not theirs! Lol
Yeah because my MIL is very overbearing. She refers to herself as Mummy nearly every time she sees my son and doesn't always realise or correct herself. She's always in my baby's face and wonders why he's unsettled with her. She needs to calm down.
No I totally understand both sides. But my adoptive mom always refers to herself as mommy and my dad as daddy. It sickens me because I know she does it on purpose. There’s no way she gets it confused that many times. However anyone saying “my baby” I don’t really mind because I call my nephew my baby and my sister don’t care
It doesn't bother me. What does bother me though is her nickname for her "Tabaitchi". "Taba" in our language Tagalog means fat. She thinks it's cute cause she's a baby with rolls. But she's 14 months now and she's starting to understand things so to me she's gonna make her grow up insecure with that nickname. Hubby disagrees with me and thinks it's cute. Ughh.
Personally no but there are a load of other innocent things they say and do that annoy me
I call all 3 of my nephews my boys and I love when people call me son theirs! Like when my mum rings and says “how is nanny’s baby”, she’s not trying to steal him she just loves him a ton! Everyone knows we’re his mum and dad, it’s just nice🤣
My In-Laws bought me loads of gifts and fancy jewellery after I gave birth to their first grandson, they thanked me for giving birth to “their baby” as if I did it for them 😂 gave me a massive ick but my MIL comes into the house and says “where’s my baby?” And I tell her where my partner is everytime 🙄
@Chloe I love your response to that, I feel like I should be responding the same way although my husband does go “I’m by here 👋” 🤣 I must say they are very good to us but it’s just little ways that are annoying (I won’t start to list 🤣) which you can’t foresee before you have a child! I completely relate to the ‘I didn’t do this for you’ sort of thing x
I don't mind if my parents/in laws say 'our' but what really gets me is my grandparents saying it! I barely have a relationship with my mums parents, it's always been like that for as long as I remember, but yet they say 'our little munchkin' or other things like that about my children ??? Like you don't even know me well enough to call them that lol! X
Hahaha I called my mum out on this when my LO was a new born. I love my mum she’s amazing and amazing with my daughter but she’d go ‘how’s my baby’ and it used to really bother me!!! Maybe was just the hormones, but I’d look at her giving semi daggers 🤣 and say ‘she’s my baby’ it soon stopped. However I don’t think it would bother me now 🤷🏽♀️😂
No.... Because he is THEIR grandchild. It's not meant in a "you're mine and only mine" sentiment. It's meant in a "hows my little grandchild?" You're a family, he is a part of their family, so in a sense, he is theirs.