Don’t know how much more I can take

My partner complains all the time that hes fed up of arguing and the relationship is shit blah blah blah. Yet he starts on me ALL the time. He moans and complains about everything but yet it’s me I am the problem. For example today, I had to have a quick 10 second shower because we needed to be out the door and we were running behind because he couldn’t be arsed to get out of bed because he’s tired. Bearing in mind I do all the night feeds for our 9 week old. I asked him to have the baby so I could get ready and not feel like a scruff for once because I never get any help to get ready and it’s starting to knock my confidence and he’s always making mean comments about the way I look that I don’t make an effort in my appearance. Today was the same. I had the world’s quickest shower yet he had a 40 minute soak in the bath, and proceeded to get ready while watching me struggle with the baby. Once he was ready complained that I was making us late because I wasn’t ready. So once again I had to leave looking a mess. All day he’s snapped at me about things that don’t matter. I fancied a donut just, he ate his earlier. If I’d of just got the donut and ate it he’d of complained that I’m a tramp and all the mess me eating a donut would make, so I got a tray to eat said donut and got absolutely ripped a new one because the mess I am going to make on the tray and will need to wash it and put it back away. I threw the donut in the bin and don’t eat it and am now crying sitting in silence being ignored for what I did. This is how pathetic my life is daily. Yet he “hates” arguing.

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He's sounds like an ass and I'd consider leaving . He doesn't appreciate you. He's selfish.

@Akasha it gets better. He’s going sleep now because he’s tired. And once again I am being left to do everything. It’s like living the same day every day it’s vile

I was there once. I put up with it for 15 years it's exhausted me. He never changed no many how many times he said he would. I did everything with our 4 kids , plus did tasks around the house he could of done like cutting grass and putting out trash. I watched kids daily cooked clearness did all the responsibilities. He just basically lived his life and complained . He was literally misery

He sounds like a bully, it sounds like you're doing everything by yourself already. Have you spoken to him about how you feel and how he makes you feel?

@Akasha that’s him. It’s like he loves being miserable and enjoys watching me struggle and cry

@R 🪬 I say it every day and every day I get told to shut up he’s sick of hearing me and sick of looking at my miserable face

Wow yup good riddance is what id say. Either he helps and is respectful or leaves. Cause your kid will grow up listening to him and then in turn be disrespectful to women or people as well!

Leaving can seem scary but waking up in 10 years time in the exact same place is even scarier. You deserve so much better. Parenting is teamwork, he’s not pulling his weight at all. It should be mutual, not just left to one person. He doesn’t sound like the type that’s easy to communicate with. I know baby is only 9 weeks but baby deserves a happy, well taken care of mum xx

@Akasha that’s what I’ve said I don’t want her growing up thinking this is all ok. He doesn’t contribute to bills either it’s all me

@Sarah 7 years and nothing has changed. I just want to be happy and was hoping with the baby it would be but it’s not. I’m still made to feel worthless every day. Anything I say ends up with him falling out with me and me being ignored for days. And it’s usually over the most stupid of things. I darent ask for help anymore no point it’s not worth the hassle that’s comes with asking

Ya not worth your mental health staying in something like that. Trust me . Don't wait 15 years like I did

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