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I agree with the above. Who gets paid more should pay more. Everything else split.
Agreed with above comments! He should be paying majority of it and contribute in housework’s too! Work as team.
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Pre child, we split everything equally. But since we had our son and I work less then I used to, I was doing all the bills and food and he was doing the mortgage and council tax. But as bills have gone up, he’s been lovely and taken the food shopping off me too and he’ll always go halves on extra stuff for our son! But he will also help run the house- though he works longer hours than me so lots of it does fall on me but he does more than his fair share!
Both me and my partner put into a joint account which is where all household/family expenditure comes from. He earns way more than me so he puts in way more obviously…. Otherwise he would be sat with a large bank account but living in a small house if we had to halve it 50/50 because of what I could afford. I do the cooking because he’s useless at it, but he does things that I’m rubbish at because we work our strengths … he pulls his weight on chores and house jobs etc - we pretty much split it all. He is also very much a parent and doesn’t see it as a chore to look after them as they are his kids. Honestly it’s 2024 - men need to cut the crap with the gender stereotype stuff atleast to some level and women need to have enough self respect to know when they are being taken advantage of and not put up with it
We just put everything into a joint account which the bills come out of. There’s no I pay this you pay this. It’s all just our money.
If someone is making more than the other person then that person should be paying more. If you both make around the same amount then I would split the bills evenly. When it comes to the kids it should always be 50/50. He should also be pitching in on house chores. Even if you’re at home more than he is, he needs to lend a hand. Both parties should be pulling their weight equally.