Alcohol

Urh here to rant.. we have a 3 week old. My partner has completely gone and disregarded everything I’ve said. I said I wasn’t ready to have a full day and night with the baby yet, not coz I can’t do it (I most defo can) I’m just adapting. Anyway he’s been out all day oh and all night. Got drunk and cannot drive home. Apparently I’m in the wrong by calling him irresponsible, I’m personally hurting at the fact he just ignores everything I say about how I feel. Especially to go drinking. His response to me saying he’s ignored me saying I wasn’t ready for it is “sometimes you have to struggle or you’ll drown”. Now I know I’ve got it and it’s been fine (minus no sleeping because she’s been cluster feeding since 10pm..) but it’s the principle. I don’t feel respected in anyway. I feel really hurt. Probably doesn’t help my emotions are sky high due to the lovely pp hormones we get. But I’m just fed up with him already and we’re only 3 weeks in..

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3 week old baby and to be gone is insane, if he had to work maybe but to party yikes. He should be tending to both of your needs. You should have that sink or swim attitude with him in return when you decide to have time for yourself and leave him with your baby. Let’s see how he likes it. Tbh from my own experience this is just him showing his true colors and maybe the tip of the iceberg…I wish you the best though. ❤️

@Cheyenne thank you. It’s nice to know I’m not going insane. I do try and keep the mentality “if he wanted to he would”… unfortunately you can’t force it. I think I’m just trying to avoid seeing the true colour shining through…

I tried to as well. He spent most of his parental leave playing videos games and hanging out with his friends like it was a vacation. It’s got a little better when I brought it up in a disagreement. I never get to do things I’d like to do my baby is 4 months now and he says it my choice…then complains that he doesn’t do what he wants…he does but even then if that were true he needs to keep that same energy it’s his CHOICE. They can’t accept what they dish out.

My baby is 10 months now and I kinda went through the same thing. Her dad was careless and I was stuck to do the nights (I was pumping and cleaning bottles, changing her and my diaper etc.) a 3 week old is sooooo dependent on mom and dad but mostly mom. So dad should be there to help 110%. It’s very irresponsible of him to 1) go out period without you 2) be out all night 3) get drunk enough to not get home Maybe fatherhood hasn’t kicked in for him yet but I’m not giving him excuses. You tell him the same thing , go out for a day and night or whatever with friends or realz and heal all day. If he says anything tell him “ you have to struggle or you’ll drown” message me if you need more advice (:

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