Nursery

I took a year off with my eldest who's now 3 and I wish I could this time around but we just can't afford it so I'm back at work 10th Feb and he'll be in nursery two full days and my dad will have them both one full day too. I really don't want to leave him and go back to work yet but I know he'll be in good hands (same nursery as his sister) and he will enjoy it and I need the money. I work in a nursery myself in the baby room and have had a few 6m olds and 8m olds start previously and it really isn't detrimental for them at all 😊 x

My LO starts in April and I know it’ll be good for him but I hate that I can’t stay at home with him 😞 we can’t afford for me to not be at work and I hate the idea that other people are helping to raise him and that he won’t have me around

@Maggie how do you know it would be good for him? Just asking so that I can get some peace of mind. I hope you understand

@Hannah thank you for the assurance dear 💕

He’s a very sociable boy and he loves the classes we go to and his swimming, he’s always interacting with the other babies and he’s the same with our friends. I just think he’ll do well in that environment and I want him to be socialised well before he goes to school 🙂

Nooo… I flip it on its head and think how lucky they are to go to nursery to play/socialise with other babies. They also will do such lovely activities at an age appropriate level. I’m a teacher and worked in a nursery beforehand and the children learn so much whilst they’re there. My baby is going for 2 days a week at 10.5 months and I genuinely feel excited for her because I know all the lovely things that she will experience there ❤️ try to think positively if you can 😘 xx

Honestly, this “expert” has not taken into consideration people who have no choice. I used to work in a nursery and I can assure you they get plenty from going. creating bonds with babies and the workers, so many activities that maybe you wouldn’t have time to do. Don’t worry too much about what you’ve seen xx

I've watched that full video, honestly, we are just doing the best we can in our world with parenting. I have worked with children for a long time and honestly those in mother & baby groups or nurseries are all developmentally the same. The nursery children aren't suffering being there and the children who aren't there aren't suffering either. In nurseries they are giving a key worker to help transition and they have a bond with that key worker. I've seen it last the entire time they are at the nursery. They make friends and do different activities than from home and potty training, learning to eat comes a little easier too as everyone is learning and doing at the same time. Please don't beat yourself up with social media ideals that can't exist in reality. You're doing an amazing job and your child will learn different skills from being in nursery too. I hope this helps.

Tbh I’m quite looking forward to the break. We have only put him in for the 11 funded hours tho as my partner works part time in the morning and my mum is happy to pick up the odd morning if we are both at work and it’s not a nursery day. Plus he will be 11 months by that point.

@Amy West thank you Amy! You have no idea how much you helped🥹

@Lucy thank you Lucy! I’m feeling better already 💕

@Mica prob is my baby starts screaming if someone else try to pick her up or even interacts. I really hope she accepts her key worker soon n doesn’t cry all day long😔

@Aitch that’s good. Your baby will have enough transition time💕

It may take time but she will adjust. In the nurseries I worked at it usually took 3-5 days if going full time for the teary babies to get used to someone, sometimes it wasn't their key worker and they'd change the key worker on that basis. Give it time and please don't beat yourself up. They suddenly stop crying and begin observing and making friends. You've both got this.

@Mica thanks for your kind words lovely💕