Family members holding your baby

Yeah this was me as a first time mom. You need to set boundaries or they will Continue to do it unfortunately. Whether you explain it to them over text message or in person, or even your partner does it.

i agree i had a hard time with my in laws too but if you and your partner have good communication and your husband is able to understand how you feel and stand 10 toes behind you he should be able to communicate with his family about it

I felt this way 100% and something that really helped me is baby wearing. I had my daughter in a wrap carrier whenever we went out and because of that people never really would ask to hold her because she was all snugged up against me.

I completely understand. My daughter’s dad seems to love handing off our daughter when he has his friends over and I absolutely hate that. I’m not going to make my child go to someone I don’t care who it is. I’m also not going to have my friends hold her if I’m not comfortable and they understand that. I feel like when she’s with him because I’m the primary parent and she lives with me it’s just like a game of pass the baby and I truly hate it. I would definitely address the concerns you have and let them be known. You’re that child’s mother so what you say goes and your concerns no matter how “crazy” or “extra” they are and completely valid and if someone has something to say then they can say it from their house away from your child.

I just posted in another group about this SAME exact thing!! It’s almost like I wrote this haha. Mine isn’t just with his family, it’s with my own too. I love and trust them all but I just want to hold her myself and everyone wants to hold her and it’s almost like they don’t care to visit with my husband and I, they just want us to bring them the baby. I also have anxiety when anyone besides my husband or I hold her and constantly watching

@Lia 100% this has made me realize who is really there for me & who’s there just for the baby. it’s frustrating and unfortunate

Baby wear and don't take her/ him out!

Absolutely. I didn’t let anyone hold her for more than 5 minutes for months! It is natural and hormonal and the lioness mother. It is still hard but getting better now that she is 2 and can speak up for herself

Babywear! If anyone asks to hold say, no baby is really comfortable here or no he’s fine with a smile. If they keep asking, then it’s time to go as they didn’t respect your boundaries. Just my opinion.

I literally have the same thing going on with mine. Its almost like you start dispise them. Give me a little message and we can rant 🤣 I struggle with it too.. we dont feel comfortable to raise it with them however me and my boyfriend have a 'plan' 🤣 so my boyfriend will say stuff like, "pass him to me you havent even had a sip of your coffee" he will then hold for a little while and go awww do you want mummy snuggles?" Then passes him to me 😀 just an example but it does work 🥰 xx

I don’t like her being held by the majority of her dads family because they don’t hold her properly but I hate confrontation so whenever I go around her dads family I put her in the baby wrap 🤣

Hey dear it’s very common. I didn’t wanted even my mom to hold my baby when she was a new born. It seems when a baby is born a hormone is released that makes the women overprotective towards her baby. Not only this baby and the mother gets separation anxiety. Due to all this we feel over protective towards our baby

I feel like your S/O should be communicating these boundaries for you and if they aren’t respected don’t go! You and baby’s comfort is priority!

@Courtney that’s actually so sweet how your boyfriend does this for you!

My advice is absolutely trust your mother instincts and that precious bond you have with your baby. If you feel your baby is overstimulated and overwhelmed by all the people holding them you are right… you and your baby are very connected. You must do whatever feels right for you and if that means maybe disappointing family members then that is fine 💕🤍