Birthdays

U do what ever feels comfortable to u every action has consequences good or bad

Couldn’t the dad bring her instead of the mum?

Are they not allowed to see each other because you and the other mom don’t get along? Or is there another reason? Because I was thinking can dad or mutual aunt or grandparent for example bring her to the party so you and the other mom don’t have to be around each other? It’s a shame if they arn’t able to have a relationship

I would put your differences aside and let the little ones see each other, if I had a sister I never saw I would be sad. I mean I was adopted which isn't the same but similar as I never saw my sister but it was because I wasn't aloud by law until I was 16 so the fact that you are both the reason not the law that they can't see each other and build their own relationships is very selfish and sad. I would definitely invite them

Also my sister in law decided she didn't like me and now we don't see her children often and my baby boy doesn't see his cousins often , which again I think is awful and sad. However they do live quite far away. My brother and his gf who doesn't like me, I see their little ones because they come to my parents to be looked after and I go round with my son, their cousin to play for the day and we have so much fun.

@Danielle the dad won't allow It, me and her don't get along personally but I feel if I invited them she would bring them but also a risk of being told to fuck off

@Steamtrane Family most of its down to there dad not wanting them to have a realtionship

@Steamtrane Family I've reached out loads even after everything that happened while I was pregant and no one ever really cared so that's why I'm on edge even messaging about the birthday

I get that I don’t get along with the other bm at all either but still want my daughter to have a relationship with her brother. He’s a little older though so can contact him myself directly. If I were in your shoes I would extend the invite and if she responds telling you to fuck off then at least you can hold your head high that you tried for the sake of the children

Invite the sister I was the daughter in that situation before