Leaving and divorce

Were are you from

Do it! Better for you child if you feel happy

I’d honestly think about what decisions you make as, if he does have money, it will be very easy for him to gain custody of your son if you are unable to provide for him. Please consider what proof you might have of the person he is aggressive and his aggressive behaviour. These things aren’t as easy as selling items and hoping you will get by. You would need to provide a solid home and income. Personally if it was me I would first think about getting a job. As your husband can afford childcare maybe getting a job to support you and the baby should be a first step, unless you have proof he is a poor father or solid proof he is abusive. I know this isn’t the answer you want to hear but I really feel being able to provide you with another way this might play out is important.

If only one bag and jewelry can get you an accommodation it means your items are expensive. Make the move for yourself and your son. If you are not ready to move out now play along have a plan for the next one year! Get him to give you money, save save save!!! Add value to yourself, learn a skill while your save and plan. Wishing you the best

You have the right idea, but you have to be calculated. This is the planning stage while you have resources at your fingertips. You know your current situation is not healthy, so now it’s about making a plan before you leave about what you can save and prepare for in advance.

Better play the game and start saving money...

Buy gift cards... loose receipts. Start saving to your own (unknown to him acc) Copy important documents passports etc save to a new (unknown to him) email. Log out of shared devices, update your passwords. Anything important/sentimental have a plan for... ie send to trusted family/friend. Do not breathe a word to any mutual/potentially mutual acquaintances Sell what you can... ideally in a way he won't find out, and things he won't miss. Keep diary / log of any abuse secure new email. If he pays for your phone/contract get a plan b and sim

Maybe give yourself a few months. Stash away money here and there. A bag and other things can only get you so far.

Rent a place, then what? How long of a rental would be covered if you sold a bag/jewelry? I wouldn’t leave w/o a real plan. You don’t want a divorce so…is the expectation y’all live separate and he continues to pay for you to live indefinitely?

I agree with Kythrin. Think twice please.

@Kathryn exactly my words. 🩷