Totally agree with you. In fact, depending on your housing circumstances…why should you be the one to leave at the weekends?! When my SD (13) was physically hurting my baby who was nearly 1 at the time, I was going to do the same and go to my parents every weekend, until MY mum pointed out…why should me and my baby leave our home?! So I said until her behaviour improved my husband could stay somewhere else with her at the weekend, do days out, or he’d have to supervise 24/7. Took about 2 weekends for them to realise I was serious and sticking to it and she dramatically improved her attitude and behaviour.
Hats off to you 🤣 lay down the law
For what it’s worth I don’t think you’re an arsehole I think you’re just a woman whose being pushed to the edge and you’ve got to take a stand however you chose to do it is down to you x
Not an arsehole at all!! You’re protecting your sanity, your space and tour children. We are with you!
This is hard You have to look and think if you and your partner split you can NOT stop his other children being around the kids BUT he does need to god damn parent them!? Maybe the threat is enough to give him a kick up the arse to sort his shit out? I’d be refusing to be on my own with them so if he can’t fulfil his obligation to his children he needs to either not have them or find alternative childcare because it’s no longer you! But I don’t blame you for wanting to escape and not be involved but I’d be asking myself if this relationship is even viable and worthwhile!