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Idk I’ve been apart of these types of groups and even with replying people don’t show up. Most recently out of a event for 20 only 2 of us and the host showed up. You didn’t respond for 3 days initially then 4 hours for a follow up. I think she’s totally valid to move on. If you feel like you’d vibe with some of the girls I’d still go. 30-40 people means you don’t necessarily need to vibe or hang with the host
omg as someone who hosts events, it’s not right that she wasn’t nice to u but u definitely took too long to reply and i would’ve removed u and gave ur spot up too 🤷🏻♀️ as a host there’s SO many moving pieces that are happening behind the scenes and when someone takes days to reply as it is it’s such an inconvenience and if everyone is bringing something we are usually counting on that food to be there so the party is not a flop with not enough food, drink, etc. for everyone. she probably gave ur spot away to someone who had already said they were interested, more reliable with responding, and ready on deck to take ur spot. just definitely remember that for next time because if ppl seem flakey and don’t respond us as the host has no idea and wether u come or not it’s still our party that we need to be successful. i understand ur annoyed but think abt it from her perspective 🤍
@𝓛𝓮𝓷𝓪 ✨ she doesn’t have any kids so she definitely doesn’t know what’s it’s like to be distracted and preoccupied at times! There’s like 30-40 people bringing food like girl relax Im bringing tacos She did message me privately and I did message the group chat to respond on a playlist I realize I see from earlier today and then I said I was gonna get to her too and Idunno what happen but I got distracted with my kids LOL I swear I thought I messaged her back too tho! Hahha but she definitely overreacted sounded very petty and the way she spoke to was just not inviting anymore!!! Definitely not a way to host events if you want good feedback! We even partied together before the event she created. I went to her 30th bday party me and a few others stayed over , we went to one of her friends like I thought she was more « cool » with me which is why I’m like taken back a bit with her response!!!
@Daija that’s the thing I went to her birthday party before she created this event and she Invited like 30 girls and only 8 -10 people showed up!! So it really is just by chance people say they’ll come and bring food and next thing you know people start canceling or not showing up and this was food too I LOVE FOOD lol so saw a whole list of what people was bringing and I was excited lolol! I did respond to a chat earlier today though which I realized and thought I messaged her afterwards but I got distracted but I mean I still responded with the names of a playlist wouldnt that show that I’m still interested ?? I know I answer her about the damnnn tacos but dang Lolol
@Annie do the food events really work out? Do you get a lot of people who come through and bring food as well! And Noo of course girl I completely understand on her part I see her perspective but I just didn’t understand that prior to her creating the event we hung out for her bday! cause she hosted an event for it and we chilled even after the party , went out so I thought we kind of had an understanding ?? So to be petty and have that sense of character on her was not respecting to see! I responded in the group chat today about a playlist I see but I got distracted as usual lol! And this has been weeks like I’ve been talking to girls , making jokes and I was the one who said I was gonnna bring something first from the beginning of the chat when it was only 6 girls!! In the beginning! Just completely sad!
I think it’s completely valid. Planning anything is stressful I can’t even imagine hosting for 30/40 people then counting on them to actually bring stuff. 3 days is bad enough, surely if you’re that excited for it you’d have remembered at some point that you needed to reply. To then still not reply to a follow up ‘oh my god so sorry yes I’m coming I’ll be bringing them!’ Takes literally 2 seconds. I get that you’re hurt and I’d be gutted- more so at myself than her though.
Not responding comes across as not interested and flakey. Next time confirm asap to let the planning run smoothly, specially if people rely on your contribution. You are saying you just confirmed that you are going and bringing the tacos but you are asking us if you should still go or nah? 🙄 That is the definition of flakey.
@𝔾𝕚𝕤𝕖𝕝𝕝𝕖 i believe you read the last part wrong I was supposed to go but not anymore! my question is if she put you back in the chat would you still wanna go or nah because of her treatment! I didn’t say I was still going with tacos!! There wasn’t anywhere of anyone being flakey because I’m asking in third person!! Of course not responding right away can be seen as unresponsive persay!
In the comments you said that you told her you would be going and bringing the tacos. It's up to you, if you don't go you confirm she was right about you.
@Hollie i did remember, but I responded to the chat to a different question I realized and got preoccupied until I went back to message her again to confirm the tacos and was removed :( definitely learned a lesson about responding hahaha but still a b••tchy move! There was still 6 days left I mean I would’ve confirmed 3 days before and not 6 but everyone is different!!
If you’re so busy that you couldn’t respond to a message, how will you be able to pull off the tacos? Seems like a lot of work.
I think you waited way too long but she handled it wrong. Once you said you were still coming, she should have told you she had someone else doing tacos because you didn't reply but then give you an alternate thing to bring and tell you next time you need to reply within a specifc time range. I get that we all get busy and forgetful but if this group relies on messenger or whatever for communication, it's your responsibility to make sure you're checking it. She did her due diligence by following up and checking in with you. What if everyone in the group just didn't check messages? The event would be a mess and she would have to do everything herself
@incog yes the food events really do work out!! it’s SO much planning though like u have no idea for example lots of people bring food on dishes they want to bring home w them same day etc. so i always try to remind everyone to get the tin ones from dollar tree and then i have themed platters and stuff for the snack tables that i use. decor and stuff like that isn’t hard imo its literally coordinating between 30 people that is hard but so worth it once the day of the party comes 🩷
From you responding to the other message and not her she might have thought you were purposely ignoring her which could add fuel to the fire. Especially if from your account her birthday didn’t go as planned. I think this is just a miscommunication thing not anything to be upset about
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@Daija I went to my friends daughter's birthday party and there was 40 people on the Facebook event page that said they were attending, my husband and I, and our son were the only people there at all. That is so depressing dude.
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I think she was overreacting and it comes off bitchy. Us mom’s get busy and a fellow mother should understand that. I get her wanting to have an answer from you about it but I think she went about it the wrong way. She could have even messaged you separately from the gc if it was that serious. Then to kick you out the gc and give someone else your spot… seems a bit much and petty. I definitely wouldn’t go even though I know you were looking forward to it. It just wouldn’t sit right with me after being treated in such a way.