Would you say gut instincts are always right?

It wouldn't be weird to me as my partner only does an hours overtime here and there and always tells me, and he never works past 5pm. Also, I see the money and I trust him 100% but it sounds like you don't trust your partner?

@Becky see normally it's absolutely fine he tells me so I can plan dinner and if I need to go out without the kids, which I did today but had to cancel with 0 notice because he never told me. he's always told me that they're not allowed to arrive before 6.30am or stay after 5pm but when I mentioned that he's working later or starting earlier it was a 'err yeah we can do it whenever now' and he's stopped contributing since we moved 6 months ago, like he pays nothing and i have to ask if he can least pay for shopping (£50 a week)and he still asks again at checkout... Normally I trust him 100% but something is telling me something isn't right

If what you are saying is true, I'd say it's abit odd, so have a chat with him

@Steamtrane Family yeah I think I'm gonna

I Would for sure, not accusations, just a nice heat to heart to find out what you can, hopefully he opens up a nd tells you the truth and it's not what you are thinkinh 🙏🙂

Check his payslip to see if there’s overtime payment

@Jay they're password protected 🙃

@Steamtrane Family I will thank you, let's hope not!

OK well yeah that does sound strange, and why has he stopped contributing? Don't allow it, if he's not contributing then what's the point it being in a relationship with him?

@Becky he got into his overdraft so I told him he can have a month or two of not paying anything apart from little bits here and there so he can get out of it. He just never contributed since. It's kinda like having 3 kids sometimes

The fact he’s not contributing anything is so bad! I’d literally be like ‘right you live in this house too so you can pay half, especially since you must have a lot of money with all this overtime you’re doing’

@Cass it either turns into an argument or he agrees but then changes back after a few weeks but I've never brought up the overtime argument so I might just do that lol. However since saying all this its actually making me think why the hell am I still doing everything 🙃 definitely need a stern word I think

How long have you been with this guy? Sorry, but I wouldn't allow it. Either he pays half, or he's out! And if you think he's cheating check his phone

@Becky 10 years!! He hasn't always been like this though😕

After 10 years has he seriously talked about getting married, took you ring shopping or anything? If he is not willing to provide then as a man he is not worthy of you

@Yasmina yeah we got engaged about 4/5 years ago but nothing since. However I'm not too fussed about marriage anyhow. I'm going to have a proper sit down talk with him Saturday as it's our sons birthday Friday and I don't want it to be awkward for him or anything

Thanks everyone, you've made me see the light even if he isn't up to no good😅