Help😭

I’m not sure how old your baby is, but if it makes you feel better it’s really important and beneficial to teach babies independent play! I’ve heard about many babies being able to keep themselves entertained and they are much happier when they don’t have anyone to play with if they are taught to be independent sometimes from a young age.

I personally wouldn’t clean up after everyone, cleaning occasionally in the shared spaces sure, but they need to understand that staying home with a baby is also a job.

Would depend how old the baby is but I’m sure “neglecting”them for short periods of time to give them a clean living space is probably the best way to go. I’m sorry you don’t have more support to have someone help with your child just so you can do a clean up. I struggle with this myself I don’t do certain chores while he sleeps cause I don’t want to wake him but he’s 2 and I can get more done while he’s awake now. I’m sorry. Can your BF take him for like 20-30 minutes a couple times a week for a clean?

How old is baby? We ended up moving LO into her own room before the 6 month period because we kept waking her up going to bed etc. Is baby also in a regular nap routine? We get around 2 hours a day where she naps and we have time to sort the house out without interruptions (most days😂) In terms of family- sometimes you need to address these issues otherwise you end up being taken advantage of. Have a designated area where you leave your things and baby’s and just clean up after yourself. You aren’t the maid just because you’re at home all day.

I noticed if I play white noise while he's asleep I can make more noise with out waking him up. I also do his day naps on the couch in the living room while everything is on so that helps

wow, this is almost my situation. the only hard thing about keeping the room up to par is the laundry when i go too long without doing it. (MIL starts laundry and forgets about it for 2 days and i get tired of basically doing it for her just so i can do my laundry) my fiance also pays for everything and works alot while i stay home so i understand why you feel cleaning is your job (which it is but don’t be afraid to put your foot down and demand help) taking time out to clean up wont hurt your baby. idk how old yours is but i put my baby in his boppy pillow, play music and he usually watches me clean before he gets cranky. basically i take breaks to interact with him. i’ve gotten to the point where im no longer taking on anyones’s load just bc im home and not working. now just waiting for someone to say something so i can learn to speak up for myself

I’m in the same boat girl 🫣

If you’re paying them rent to live with them then I would not clean up after them

I would’ve been in that boat too but my mom made us rush into buying our own ‘space’ and now me and my boyfriend are stressed because we have no money and my family keep telling me to take our daughter to baby classes (which cost money) and we can’t afford to do anything 😭

When we were living with my mother I was in the same situation. Bc we didn’t pay rent we were given the option to help around the house and help feed the farm animals or get a job. We agreed. Well turns out my mother wanted a live-in-maid (me) and my husband to be the only one feeding/watering the animals even tho there was up to 7 people living there at one point