Terrified with baby number 2

I currently have a 20 month old and im pregnant again 26 weeks. I was devestates when i found out i was pregnant again, my first LO had severe colic and has been frequently poorly in and out of hospital. Since finding out i was pregnant with my 2nd every single night i have cried my heart out worried how the hell i am going to cope 🥺 Money is soo tight at the moment, My partner wasnt great in the first 15 months of my first LO life but he is trying to be better, my LO is an absolute Mummys girl i still now cant leave her without an absolute melt down and i dont blame her the amount of times shes beem poorly, im just wondering how other Mums have coped having 2 together? My 2nd was not planned we were told it would be very difficult to concieve naturally given some of my health conditions TIA x

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Hey I was in almost the exact same situation as you except my daughter was only 3m old when I got pregnant. It took 3 years to conceive her so I didn’t think I’d have any luck with my second but it was a first time kind of thing which was a huge shock to everyone including me. I spent the entire pregnancy feeling so negative about it. I worried constantly about how I’d afford it, how I’d cope alone (my husband is out working 12h a day) and how my daughter would cope being an older sibling at only 10 months old. It really ruined the pregnancy for me. Fast forward to now. I have two beautiful girls. My youngest is turning 1 in just 6 days time and I am so happy. Don’t get me wrong it was HARD at the beginning. I cried and had more breakdowns than ever and it took awhile to get into the groove of it but oh my gosh was it worth it. I feel so much guilt about the feelings I had about my pregnancy because if I had known how full and amazing my life would be once that little baby came

Along I would have changed my entire mindset. I know how you feel. I know the exact feeling of dread, doubt, guilt and fear but I promise you that’ll all change once your little one comes along. Being able to watch your babies play, interact etc is such a beautiful experience. Watching your eldest grow up even faster and wondering how those little hands became so much bigger is a feeling I can never replicate. I know it feels terrifying right now but once you get through the first few months and you start adjusting, you will be so much happier It took me about a month to adjust and it took my daughter just a few weeks. Kids are surprisingly good at adjusting in general! I’m looking at my nearly 1 year old for asleep as I type this and I just can’t believe how fast this year has gone. It’s been a whirlwind and i honestly didn’t even process half of it! There are some things that I found helped me massively: Tandem travel system double pushchair (travel system part is a

Game changer with young children) Co ordinating day naps in the same room. Get them used to it early so they both end up syncing and felling asleep around the same ish time. It takes some trial and error! Took me a while but now I’ve kinda figured it out Don’t blame anything on the little one in front of your eldest because it’ll build resentment. (Don’t say something like “I can’t play ball right now because the baby needs a nap”) Make time for your eldest. If you have to put the baby down for a few mins, so be it. It makes a huge difference! Only has to be a few mins here and there if you struggle to find the time Try and get them involved with everything! My eldest was encouraged to help feed the baby, grab the nappies or wipes, pick the baby’s clothes etc As they get a bit older, I found that encouraging play between them has helped form a bond too!

I hope this all helps xx