my street 🥷 bd annoys me so much

When my daughter is with her dad he never puts clothes on her. She’s 9 months and he just has her in a diaper. I tell him to dress her and he says “my kids don’t wear clothes in the house it’s more comfortable”. also my baby is really fussy and when she has crying fits he tells her to shut up and calls her “a fucking crybaby”. I know it’s frustrating but he has ZERO patience. He just sent me a pic of her eating candy and I told him to make her some eggs or fruit later. I know he’s not gonna do it though. I sent her with baby food I made and when I asked him he said he never even looked at it. he only gives her bottles which is fine I guess cause sometimes I’m too lazy to give her solids too. he won’t put her carseat rear facing cause it’s “stupid”, he’s a great driver, and never did it with his other kids. I offer to get a car seat camera and he says he’s not doing that. He’s just too hood for me and he thinks being safe is “white”🙄🙄 he won’t even wipe her if she only peed when changing her 😒 When I tell him anything he just says “I have 3 kids. I know what I’m doing. You don’t.” He’s not abusive and is otherwise a good dad but he’s so lazy and impatient it annoys me. he does not listen to me!!! I worry about my daughter growing up to be ratchet. do any of you relate?? specifically to having a bd who is a street 🥷 and how annoying they are 😒

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I would think they would be more protective 😭

@Elisa he is protective but he just doesn’t wanna do anything the right way

She is 9 months old and he's giving her candy to eat??😳!! And also calling a baby a "fucking crybaby" when they are upset and tells her to "shut up". Also will not put her in the car the proper way for her safety!!! What on earth did I just read!? I would not leave my child with this 'man' for one second. Regardless if he has other kids or not. Hes not abusive? Just verbally- to a literal baby when they are upset!! this is wild.

@Jen I don’t wanna say he can’t take her cause I want her to spend time with him. And I need a break sometimes or have things to do. I still trust him with her he just has a backwards way of doing things and doesn’t wanna listen to me. when she’s older though I’m probably gonna put my foot down on her going over there if he’s not doing what I say. but for now I just let it rock. I know he sounds terrible in this post 😂 but it’s just how he grew up he doesn’t know any better and is too stuck in his ways.

I can relate slightly . My child’s father is amazing and we are both black & he says the same crap about the way I raise my older daughter ( not his ) and try to implement certain things with our daughter. It’s always that’s to “Johnny Johnny “ or “white”. He is pretty patient but if he here’s too much raucous or whining he’s yelling and getting frustrated. It used to give me anxiety. However in your cause it seems he’s being slightly negligent & Id have to check him on a few things. He needs to work with you and what is comfortable and expected.

@Jen no offense at all because I know you just want your daughter to have a relationship with her dad and to have time for yourself as well, but if anything I would think you would want to be more strict while she’s still in her infancy rather than when she’s older. Right now she’s at a more vulnerable period for her safety and well being, and can hardly speak up for herself if she’s ever uncomfortable or feeling neglected. If you’re seeing it for yourself, such as the unsafe way he has her in the car seat and not wiping the pee off her body, you have to be her advocate. Just because he has other kids doesn’t mean he knows what he’s doing and it certainly doesn’t mean he gave them the best care. Trust your instincts and reassert those boundaries. Hood or not, his baby shouldn’t have to suffer the consequences of his irresponsibility. Her growing up ratchet would be the least of my worries based on what you’ve said so far. But do what you think is best

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